Xenogender

Unrealisticgender (coined by Baaphomett in 2014, from xeno alien + "gender") is a unrealistic gender identity "that cannot be contained by human understandings of gender; more concerned with crafting other methods of gender categorization and hierarchy such as those relating to animals, plants, or other creatures/things." unrealisticgender isn't defined in relation to "female" or "male" (the binary genders), but by other kinds of ideas that most people don't think of as having to do with gender. When people talk about unrealistic genders, they often find that there aren't any words for their experiences. This is called a lexical gap. In order to fill a lexical gap, this wiki takes up "xenogender" as an umbrella term for an entire category of unrealistic genders that are defined by characteristics with no relation whatsoever to "female" or "male."

Because a gender binary society doesn't give much in the way of roles or descriptions for unrealistic genders, some transgender and nonbinary people address the challenge of describing their unusual gender identities by creative methods, referring to concepts that aren't usually seen as related to gender. This has been observed in very young nonbinary people:

"'Not all children fit neatly into a male or female gender identity, trans or otherwise. For some children, the sense of being 'both' or 'neither' best describes their reality. [...] Children who see themselves as 'neither' will often speak of how regardless of whether they're with a group of boys or girls, they feel like they don’t fit. This is not necessarily a sad feeling. They just see the kids around them and know that they are not 'that.' Kids in this category often appear androgynous, and will frequently answer the question 'are you a boy or a girl' by saying their name ('I'm Devon') or by identifying themselves as animals. When asked to draw self portraits, they will portray themselves as rainbows, or unicorns, or another symbol of their choosing.'"

- "Frequently Asked Questions," GenderSpectrum.org

These creative methods of describing nonbinary genders come naturally to many nonbinary people. As such, these are an emerging part of nonbinary culture, worthy of exploration and examination. Some common themes of these concepts:

Nouns and archetypes: Some nonbinary people find it easier to perceive or describe their inner sense of their gender identity by evoking familiar archetypes. Instead of giving references to how their gender relates to maleness and femaleness, they say their gender is-- or is like-- a kind of animal, an imaginary being, a part of nature, an abstract concept, or a symbol. Some nonbinary people describing their gender this way do so because they feel a sense of gender euphoria or some other connection when thinking about an object. Some people have made names for some of these kinds of noungenders, such as arithmogender, faunagender, and gendersea (see below).

Synaesthetic perceptions: Synaesthesia is an uncommon condition in which people have their senses linked together, so that, say, sounds and words bring up specific colors in their minds. Some nonbinary people find it feels more natural to perceive or describe their inner sense of their gender identity in terms of synaesthesia-like perceptions. For example, texture, size, shape, time, light, sound, or other sensory characteristics that most people don't attribute to gender at all. Some people have made names for some of these kinds of genders, such as archaigender, cosmicgender, and frostgender (see below).

Neurodiversity: Some nonbinary people have mental variations (mental illnesses, neurological conditions, or neurodivergence). Some who have mental variations see these as an influence on-- or an inseparable part of-- their gender identity. These are called neurogenders, and most of them are not described on this page, but on the neurogender page.

Abimegender
Abimegender: From "Old French - related to 'abyss'; from Latin a- 'without' byssos 'bottom'. Having a gender which is profound, deep, and infinite."

Keywords: size, shape, space, synaesthesia

Aesthetgender
Aesthetgender, Aesthetigender, or Videgender: Coined by curiosityismysin. "A gender experience that is derived from, or the embodiment of, an aesthetic." There are many kinds of aesthetigenders.

Keywords: abstract concepts, symbols

Aethergender
Aethergender, Æthergender, or Ethergender: Coined by royalgummi. A gender that feels very wide, commanding, breathtaking and powerful. Can be combined with relevant genders.

Keywords: space, size, synaesthesia

Aliengender
Aliengender: Coined by genderghoul. "A gender that is an interpretation of a gender or genders, from a nonhuman perspective. may or may not like to fit into a gender and adopt a gender, but in a sort of ‘alien trying out foreign species’s gender’ way. Can be combined with relevant genders."

Archaicgender
Archaicgender, Archaigender, or Historiagender: Coined by irredeemablegoety and completelynormalscientist. "A gender that stretches far beyond one’s own age or lifetime. The vast-age of this gender has allowed it to grow far beyond whatever size/presence one would expect, or perhaps to shrink down and almost be forgotten." "A gender that is ancient/old and big, and can either only be described with those words, or is correlated to them. Can be changed into archaiboy/girl/nonbinary/other."

Keywords: time, size, synaesthesia

Ariegender
Ariegender: Coined by anonymous. "A gender that makes the person feel somewhat out of control because their gender identity is taking control of their life. Based on the zodiac sign Aries."

Arithmogender
Arithmogender: Coined by furryhell. "A number gender. It can range from any numbers, positive, negative, decimals, fractions, etc. "Gender" can be replaced with xirl, fluid, girl, boi, nb, nonbinary, boy, enby, etc."

Keywords: abstract concepts, symbols

Astergender
Astergender: From Latin "aster"- related to 'star'. "Having a gender which is bright, celestial, and radial."

Keywords: light, nature, shape, space, symbols

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Astralgender
Astralgender: A gender that feels connected to space.

Keywords: nature, space, place

Biogender
Biogender: Coined by anonymous. A gender that is connected to nature in some way. There are many kinds of biogenders, such as blizzgender, boggender, felisgender, dryagender, earthgender, elementgender, faunagender, fawngender, genderflora, and hydrogender (see elsewhere on this page).

Keywords: nature, archetype

Although the word sounds similar, biogender is not to be confused with biological sex.

Blizzgender
Blizzgender or Blizgender: Coined by asperdemigirl in 2014). "Similar to frostgender [which is cold and snowy], but more intense and sometimes harsh."

Keywords: nature, temperature, synaesthesia, season

Boggender
Boggender or Swampgender: A gender that feels like, or can be compared to a bog, swamp, marsh or similar. (Coined by anonymous.)

Caelgender
Caelgender: A gender which shares qualities with outer space or has the aesthetic of space, stars, nebulae, etc. (Coined by transmomoi.)

Caminus gender
Caminus gender A gender where one feels a strong warmth and a strong connection to multiple genders (at least two) or none at all and a strong identification with a feeling of warmth.The word caminus is Latin for oven, with metaphorically represents the feeling of warmth they feel inside.

Canisgender
Canisgender, Canidaegender, or Canigender: A gender that feels influenced by, or connected to dogs in some way.

Carmigender
Carmigender: A gender that feels poetic or rhythmic in nature. May be used as a prefix (carmifluid, carmiboy, etc.) or as a standalone gender.

Cengender
Cengender: "A gender that can be summed up as an unidentifiable thing but manifests as hundreds of different genders or non at all at any given time at the same time and/or separately. Fluid and ever changing." (Coined by small-enby.)

Chaosgender
Chaosgender: When your gender does lots of confusing things and doesn't make sense to anyone. (Coined by ihatecispeople.)

Circgender
Circgender: A gender that feels so magical and grand you can’t describe it. named after Circe, goddess of magic. (Coined by anonymous.)

Colorgender
Colorgender: A gender associated with one or more colors and the feelings, hues, emotions, and/or objects associated with that color. Can be used like pinkgender, violetgender, etc.

Contigender
Contigender: "1. a gender that flows through space and time and constantly changes, always moving 2. a gender of or related to space and time. this gender can be used by itself or along with another gender to describe its state of movement e.g. a conti agender or a contigender demigirl." (Coined by hardcoreshounen.)

Keywords: space, time, movement, change, genderfluid

Cosmicgender
Cosmicgender (coined by dragon-friker ) is defined as "A gender so vast and complex that you are only able to process a small bit of it at a time. Like viewing the night sky through a telescope, you cannot hope to see all of it at once, however, you may gain more knowledge about parts of it the longer you focus on one part. May contain any number of sub genders within it that may present themselves to you. It is infinite in its possibility. Name from the vast reaches of space filled with things we cannot begin to imagine."

Keywords: size, change, space

Cryptogender
Cryptogender, Gendercryptic: "A gender one can’t discern, describe or define in human words. a gender one is puzzled by and can’t put a finger on, as it feels like it is and it isn’t there without following any particular pattern, sometimes even at the same time. the impenetrability, ambiguity and uncertainty that surround this gender are vaguely reminiscing of cryptids, ghouls and the paranormal." (Coined by puurpel.)

Keywords: confusion, questioning

Daimogender
Daimogender: When you feel your gender is closely related to demons or the supernatural, although not exclusive for demonkin. A person does not require dysphoria to be daimogender. “Daimo” comes from the word “daimon,” which was the original greek word for “demon.”

Delphigender
Delphigender or Mystigender: A mysterious, mystical and obscure non-binary gender. (Coined by genderlord.)

Digigender
Digigender: Coined by furryhell. "a digital gender. it can range from any digital thing or file; virus, malware, .txt, .mp3, anti-virus, trojan, email, etc. gender can be replaced with girl, xirl, nonbinary, nb, enby, fluid, boy, boi, etc."

Keywords: abstract concepts, technology, symbols, aesthetic.

Dollgender
Dollgender: A gender that is fragile with soft feminine and/or neutral energy. Can be influenced by a strong association with dolls and/or a doll-related kintype. (Coined by Mogaiespeon.)

keywords: fragile, porcelain, doll, feminine, neutral, inanimate.

Donumgender
Donumgender: A gender that you have been reincarnated as as a reward given by a deity for good deeds in your past life. Your gender itself is a gift given to you, something to be treasured. (note: donumgender can be for any gender, for example, a deity granting you the ability to shift through genders rapidly as a secogender would be considered a donumgender if you feel that it is a gift, so you would be both secogender and donumgender).

Dryagender
Dryagender: A form of agender but with more of a connection to an empty forest. (In reference to the Greek nymphs). (Coined by maromoroney).

Dulcigender
Dulcigender: An aesthetically-centered gender that is associated largely with stereotypically feminine things (such as pinks, frills, buns, and general cute things). (Coined by transmomoi.)

Earthgender
Earthgender: “A gender identity that is directly affected, tied to, or influenced by the earth or nature. or; a gender identity similar to/the same as that of some form of earth deity. Note: this gender identity is not to be used by duotheistic pagans or wiccans, because of the general consensus in those faiths that the earth deity being worshiped (mother earth) is a female. it can be used by non-duotheistic pagans, non-wiccans, and non-pagan otherkin whose kintypes are nature-based (naturekin, forestkin, faekin, plantkin etc).” (Coined by anonymous).

Effreu
Effreu: From French effrayant "scary" + neutre "neutral," A scary non-binary gender. "It is a [non-binary] gender, may be paired with agender and other genders." (Coined by angeligender.) Keywords: emotion, fear, scary

Egogender
Egogender or Charagender: "latin/greek prefix ego, meaning self, i (first person); a gender that is solely based on yourself, and no words seem to define it other than me gender, [name] gender, i’m just who i am and my gender is mine" (Coined by queerspike and flynneleh). "One may also use (name)gender with their name inserted for a synonymous term."

Egoisgender
Egoisgender: "An egotistical gender, much like narkissisgender but generally it’s not as ‘intense’ as narkissisgender is so to speak. it can be used by anyone. gender can be replaced with boi, xirl, nonbinary, fluid, etc." (Coined by furryhell). The synonym of this word that can only be used by people who have narcissistic personality disorder is narkissisgender.

Ekragender
Ekragender: A gender you have blown up into a million pieces or destroyed by detonating or wish you could. Prefix from the Greek word εκραγεί meaning “explode.” (Coined by gyey.)

Eldrigender
Eldrigender: A gender (or possible lack thereof) which is dark, nebulous, and ultimately unknowable. Derived from the word "eldritch." (Coined by anonymous.)

Elementgender
Elementgender: Where your gender consists of four primary parts that respectively feel linked to each element. (Coined by anonymous.)

Energender
Energender: A gender that seems to be like a ball of energy, shifting and moving rapidly and not being able to be quite pinned down, though its basic components are somewhat known, such as being partially female, partially male, partially anything really, but there being more core genders that are harder to pin down. Can be used in ways like Energender girl, Energender boy, Energender nb, etc. (Coined by anoddlittleplace.)

Espigender
Espigender: A gender which is related to being a spirit or exists on higher or extra dimensional planes.

Ethegender
Ethegender, Delicagender, Daingender, Ethereagender, or Elegender: A gender up to interpretation by individuals, but in essence is an ethereal gender that is unable to be understood by either the individual or others; a gender that cannot be explained; a dainty, elegant, or delicate gender. (Coined by robotxt).

Faunagender
Faunagender: "A gender influenced by animals." (Coined by nooklicker). Keywords: animals, nature, beings

Fawngender
Fawngender or Deergender: A gender that is explored through timidity and caution, but blossoms into something natural and cute. (Coined by forteh.)

Felidaegender
Felidaegender, Feligender, Felisgender, or Felinegender: "A gender corresponding to cats. When you feel fuzzy, and fluffy, and really want your chin scratched." (Coined by gluskinner.)

Firegender
Firegender: A fluid gender in a constant state of change that never truly extinguishes. Aesthetically linked to fire as a visual metaphor or symbol. (Coined by deanwinchesterinmyheart.)

Flirtgender
Flirtgender, Amogender, or Genderamas: A gender identity where one’s feelings of gender are experienced through flirtiness. This can be through flirting with people or the word in general, or though flirting with gender itself. (Coined by fluiditylife.)

Frostgender
Frostgender (coined by asperdemigirl in 2014) is defined as "A gender which is cold and very snowy."

Freezegender
Freezegender: "Similar to frostgender, but it also encompasses other genders as well. For example, a freezegirl would be experiencing both a cold and snowy gender but also having a connection to femininity or girl-ness." (Coined by asperdemigirl.)

Keywords: nature, demigender, temperature, season, synaesthesia

Gendercosm
Gendercosm: A gender identity encompassing and surpassing the limits of the earth/society, but doesn’t incorporate existing genders from society; a gender identity so grand and huge it cannot be explained by words. the opposite of gendervoid.

Genderflora
Genderflora: A gender that blooms and evolves based on weather and atmosphere; similar to genderfluid but feels more connected to flowers and other flora.

Gendergoliath
Gendergoliath: "Gender is almost larger than life, like it’s spilling out of your body. It takes up a lot of space and is just awe inspiring." (Coined by omegaleveltelepathsdoitbetter.)

Keywords: size, shape, space

Genderopaque
Genderopaque: "A gender experience that is neither transparent or translucent." (Coined by curiosityismysin.)

Keywords: shape, synaesthesia, texture

Gendersea
Gendersea: "Like gendervoid [see below], but related to the ocean. your gender is a vast sea of caverns and depths yet to be discovered. free for all to use but made with otherkin related to the ocean or sea creatures in mind." (Coined by anonymous). Keywords: animals, elements, nature, water

Gendervoid
Gendervoid: "A gender consisting of the void (also/originally used to mean the same thing as genderless)." (Coined by Baaphomett). Keywords: size, shape, texture, abstract concepts

Glimragender
Glimragender: A gender that feels like it’s faintly shining or wavering.

Glitchgender
Glitchgender: "You may or may not have a gender, but either way it’s glitched and confusing. note: ideal for glitchkin/techkin/etc but nonkin can use it too!" Not to be confused with genderglitch. (Coined by wrinkledough). Keywords: genderless, monogender, technology, questioning

Healegender
Healegender or Healgender: A gender that brings peace of mind to the identifier. Once adopted, this gender connects the minds in ways that it had not been connected before. It brings clarity, creativity, and security to its identifier.

Heliogender
Heliogender: "Similar to agender; a strong sensation of warmth and genderlessness. [...] an intense and burning sensation of gender (or lack thereof)." From the word "helio", meaning "sun". (Coined by n64kin). Keywords: temperature, genderless, synaesthesia

Hydrogender
Hydrogender: A gender which shares qualities with or be compared to qualities of water; i.e. currents, tides, etc.

Jupitergender
Jupitergender: "When your gender is so large and present, you’re not quite sure what it is because it’s too big to see clearly but it is definitely there and you know you’re definitely not cis." (Coined by anonymous). Keywords: size, monogender, questioning, space

Lamingender
Lamingender: "A gender experience composed of layers or slices." (Coined by curiosityismysin.) Keywords: shape, texture, abstract concepts, synaesthesia

Leogender
Leogender: "A term for those whose gender is related to strength and regality". (Coined by prideful-concerto). Keywords: strong, royalty

Leukogender
Leukogender: "A gender that shines brightly and luminously". From leuko- "bright, shining." (Coined by itonokogiris). Keywords: light

Lichtgender
Lichtgender: A gender represented by a ball of light.

Lovegender
Lovegender: A gender defined by love for other gendered people who are treated badly, and a love for your own gender as well.

Machinegender
Machinegender: A gender related to (and only for) technological kin-types such as machinekin and robotkin. When your gender feels related to technology as a result of being kin. Closely related to digigender in the sense that while digigender is closer to being like software, machinegender is closer to being like hardware.

Microgender and macrogender
Microgender and Macrogender: "Small and large feelings of gender that are not identifiable within social gender categories." (Coined by Baaphomett). Keywords: size, shape, space

Mirrorgender
Mirrorgender: A gender that identifies as the genders around them, ie. if they are around males they will identify as male.

Musicgender
Musicgender: A catchall term for any gender that is related to musicianship or music theory.

Musicagender: "When your gender can only be described through a specific musical aesthetic and/or genre." (Coined by transmomoi). Keywords: sound, synaesthesia, symbols

Namegender
(Name)gender: "A gender that is best described by one’s name, good for those who aren’t sure what they identify as yet but definitely know that they aren’t cis [cisgender]. it can be used as a catch-all term or a specific identifier, e.g. johngender, janegender, (your name here)gender, etc." (Coined by anonymous.)

Keywords: unique

Necrogender
Necrogender: A gender that used to exist but is now 'dead' or nonexistent. (Coined by Baaphomett).

Noungender
Noungender: "A gender that's best described by a noun, particularly good for synasthetic people. eg: seagender, a gender best described by the sea. Very flexible and personable." An umbrella term. (Coined by barnacle.)

Numbergender
Numbergender: "A gender relating to those who identify themselves as a number or mathematical equation. can also be a gender that revolves around all numbers in general. theres negative and positive numbergenders, and anything mathematical. Numbergender can, but doesnt have to be, very organized and orderly." (Coined by numberkincutie.)

Keywords: abstract concepts, synaesthesia, symbols.

Nyctogender
Nyctogender: "A gender consisting of pure darkness or related to it." (Coined by wynter-caelum). Keywords: light, dark, abstract, symbols

Orbgender
Orbgender: A gender which feels round, without any edges.

Preciogender
Preciogender or Precique: A gender which feels special and precious to you.

Quantigender
Quantigender, Quantal Gender, Quantumgender, or Genderquantum. A gender that is an earthly transmutation originating in a conscious awareness of dimensions of reality typically separate from any of the perceptions of everyday life. Examples of skills essential to have experiences beyond what can be described as typical, include expertise in hard sciences, mystical practice, or any other skill one has developed sufficiently to be able to experience a fully focused state of immersion and flow, from acrobatics to knitting. It is through the mental state of clarity, equanimity, and unwavering focus that one can begin to release one's grasp of one's physical body, and begin to identify more with one's subtle energetic body, before, in turn, letting go of the subtle body before ultimately coming to identify with the multiverse, Omega Point, or Cosmic Consciousness as whole. It is in these super-dimensional travels and in subsequent dimensions, that the origins of earthly quantigenders can be mapped. In a sentence:


 * "We were practicing our yoga and breathwork rituals when suddenly we came upon another alter ego in our polygender multiplicity It happened like this: As our subtle body gave our gross body permission to sleep, exactly one complete possible timeline of reality appeared before as we could behold all one possible reality simultaneously, extending into the past back to the big bang and toward the future all the way to the ultimate heat death of the universe. Simultaneously, it was as if we were watching it's quantity diminish into a singular actuality as the present moment continuously unfolded before our perceptions. Then, multiple timelines appeared before us, and more timelines after that. Then, we appeared before us, watching timelines appear and multiple. We were watching timelines multiply while watching our multiplying selves watch timelines multiply. Toward the conclusion of this rapid inter-dimensional succession, we became so expansive we began to asymptotically approach a thing that some might call The Truth, or Consciousness, or just the *is*-ness. We saw her, took a quick mental image of just one of her infinite sides, and used it in a later ritual to transmute her aspect into a new quantigender alter ego in of our system. Now her name is "Sadie" and she uses "she/hers" and likes jigsaw puzzles and Victorian-Era trivia."

Seagender
Seagender: A gender that is as deep and unknown as the ocean itself. It’s a gender that is mostly incomprehensible but slightly familiar in human terms. Not to be confused with Gendersea.

Stargender
Stargender: "An otherworldly gender that is beyond comprehension in earthly terms, as if it originated from beyond the earth. OR a gender that cannot be defined no matter how many other terms are coined OR simply the gender of a star."

Staticgender
Staticgender: A gender which can best be described as TV static; fuzzy and incomprehensible.

Stratogender
Stratogender: A gender that has various layers, created with sky/cloudkin in mind but can be used by anyone.

Wintgender
Wintgender, Wintegender, or Wintergender. (Coined by asperdemigirl in 2014). Similar to blizzgender, but it encompasses a second gender. A winteboy might experience both a cold, harsh, and snowy gender, but also being male or have some connection to masculinity, for example.

Witchgender
Witchgender, Magusgender, Magegender, or Venefigender: A gender that has a closeness or connection to witchcraft and magic. It is, in a way, a magic gender. You could use it to perform strange gender magic. Or something. It is also associated with a feminine or androgynous gender expression. Not to be confused with Genderwitched.

Wolfsbanegender
Wolfsbanegender: A xenogender that is elegant yet extremely poisonous. The poisonous aspects give a sense of protection to the one who identifies with the term. (Coined by Mogaiespeon.)

Keywords: Elegant, poison.