Xenogender

Xenogender (coined by Baaphomett in 2014, from xeno alien + "gender") is a nonbinary gender identity "that cannot be contained by human understandings of gender; more concerned with crafting other methods of gender categorization and hierarchy such as those relating to animals, plants, or other creatures/things." Xenogender isn't defined in relation to "female" or "male" (the binary genders), but by other kinds of ideas that most people don't think of as having to do with gender. When people talk about nonbinary gender, they often find that there aren't any words for their experiences. This is called a lexical gap. In order to fill a lexical gap, this wiki takes up "xenogender" as an umbrella term for an entire category of nonbinary genders that are defined by characteristics with no relation whatsoever to "female" or "male."

Because a gender binary society doesn't give much in the way of roles or descriptions for nonbinary genders, some transgender and nonbinary people address the challenge of describing their unusual gender identities by creative methods, referring to concepts that aren't usually seen as related to gender. This has been observed in very young nonbinary people:

"'Not all children fit neatly into a male or female gender identity, trans or otherwise. For some children, the sense of being 'both' or 'neither' best describes their reality. [...] Children who see themselves as 'neither' will often speak of how regardless of whether they're with a group of boys or girls, they feel like they don’t fit. This is not necessarily a sad feeling. They just see the kids around them and know that they are not 'that.' Kids in this category often appear androgynous, and will frequently answer the question 'are you a boy or a girl' by saying their name ('I'm Devon') or by identifying themselves as animals. When asked to draw self portraits, they will portray themselves as rainbows, or unicorns, or another symbol of their choosing.'"

- "Frequently Asked Questions," GenderSpectrum.org

These creative methods of describing nonbinary genders come naturally to many nonbinary people. As such, these are an emerging part of nonbinary culture, worthy of exploration and examination. Some common themes of these concepts:

Nouns and archetypes: Some nonbinary people find it easier to perceive or describe their inner sense of their gender identity by evoking familiar archetypes. Instead of giving references to how their gender relates to maleness and femaleness, they say their gender is-- or is like-- a kind of animal, an imaginary being, a part of nature, an abstract concept, or a symbol. Some nonbinary people describing their gender this way do so because they feel a sense of gender euphoria or some other connection when thinking about an object. Some people have made names for some of these kinds of noungenders, such as arithmogender, faunagender, and gendersea (see below).

Synaesthetic perceptions: Synaesthesia is an uncommon condition in which people have their senses linked together, so that, say, sounds and words bring up specific colors in their minds. Some nonbinary people find it feels more natural to perceive or describe their inner sense of their gender identity in terms of synaesthesia-like perceptions. For example, texture, size, shape, time, light, sound, or other sensory characteristics that most people don't attribute to gender at all. Some people have made names for some of these kinds of genders, such as archaigender, cosmicgender, and frostgender (see below).

Neurodiversity: Some nonbinary people have mental variations (mental illnesses, neurological conditions, or neurodivergence). Some who have mental variations see these as an influence on-- or an inseparable part of-- their gender identity. These are called neurogenders, and most of them are not described on this page, but on the neurogender page.

Abimegender
Abimegender: From "Old French - related to 'abyss'; from Latin a- 'without' byssos 'bottom'. Having a gender which is profound, deep, and infinite."

Keywords: size, shape, space, synaesthesia

Aesthetgender
Aesthetgender, Aesthetigender, or Videgender: Coined by curiosityismysin. "A gender experience that is derived from, or the embodiment of, an aesthetic." There are many kinds of aesthetigenders.

Keywords: abstract concepts, symbols

Aethergender
Aethergender, Æthergender, or Ethergender: Coined by royalgummi. A gender that feels very wide, commanding, breathtaking and powerful. Can be combined with relevant genders.

Keywords: space, size, synaesthesia

Aliengender
Aliengender: Coined by genderghoul. "A gender that is an interpretation of a gender or genders, from a nonhuman perspective. may or may not like to fit into a gender and adopt a gender, but in a sort of ‘alien trying out foreign species’s gender’ way. Can be combined with relevant genders."

Archaicgender
Archaicgender, Archaigender, or Historiagender: Coined by irredeemablegoety and completelynormalscientist. "A gender that stretches far beyond one’s own age or lifetime. The vast-age of this gender has allowed it to grow far beyond whatever size/presence one would expect, or perhaps to shrink down and almost be forgotten." "A gender that is ancient/old and big, and can either only be described with those words, or is correlated to them. Can be changed into archaiboy/girl/nonbinary/other."

Keywords: time, size, synaesthesia

Ariegender
Ariegender: Coined by anonymous. "A gender that makes the person feel somewhat out of control because their gender identity is taking control of their life. Based on the zodiac sign Aries."

Arithmogender
Arithmogender: Coined by furryhell. "A number gender. It can range from any numbers, positive, negative, decimals, fractions, etc. "Gender" can be replaced with xirl, fluid, girl, boi, nb, nonbinary, boy, enby, etc."

Keywords: abstract concepts, symbols

Astergender
Astergender: From Latin "aster"- related to 'star'. "Having a gender which is bright, celestial, and radial."

Keywords: light, nature, shape, space, symbols

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Astralgender
Astralgender: A gender that feels connected to space.

Keywords: nature, space, place

Biogender
Biogender: Coined by anonymous. A gender that is connected to nature in some way. There are many kinds of biogenders, such as blizzgender, boggender, felisgender, dryagender, earthgender, elementgender, faunagender, fawngender, genderflora, and hydrogender (see elsewhere on this page).

Keywords: nature, archetype

Although the word sounds similar, biogender is not to be confused with biological sex.

Blizzgender
Blizzgender or Blizgender: Coined by asperdemigirl in 2014). "Similar to frostgender [which is cold and snowy], but more intense and sometimes harsh."

Keywords: nature, temperature, synaesthesia, season

Boggender
Boggender or Swampgender: A gender that feels like, or can be compared to a bog, swamp, marsh or similar. (Coined by anonymous.)

Caelgender
Caelgender: A gender which shares qualities with outer space or has the aesthetic of space, stars, nebulae, etc. (Coined by transmomoi.)

Cengender
Cengender: "A gender that can be summed up as an unidentifiable thing but manifests as hundreds of different genders or non at all at any given time at the same time and/or separately. Fluid and ever changing." (Coined by small-enby.)

Chaosgender
Chaosgender: When your gender does lots of confusing things and doesn't make sense to anyone. (Coined by ihatecispeople.)

Circgender
Circgender: A gender that feels so magical and grand you can’t describe it. named after Circe, goddess of magic. (Coined by anonymous.)

Contigender
Contigender: "1. a gender that flows through space and time and constantly changes, always moving 2. a gender of or related to space and time. this gender can be used by itself or along with another gender to describe its state of movement e.g. a conti agender or a contigender demigirl." (Coined by hardcoreshounen.)

Keywords: space, time, movement, change, genderfluid

Cosmicgender
Cosmicgender (coined by dragon-friker ) is defined as "A gender so vast and complex that you are only able to process a small bit of it at a time. Like viewing the night sky through a telescope, you cannot hope to see all of it at once, however, you may gain more knowledge about parts of it the longer you focus on one part. May contain any number of sub genders within it that may present themselves to you. It is infinite in its possibility. Name from the vast reaches of space filled with things we cannot begin to imagine."

Keywords: size, change, space

Cryptogender
Cryptogender, Gendercryptic: "A gender one can’t discern, describe or define in human words. a gender one is puzzled by and can’t put a finger on, as it feels like it is and it isn’t there without following any particular pattern, sometimes even at the same time. the impenetrability, ambiguity and uncertainty that surround this gender are vaguely reminiscing of cryptids, ghouls and the paranormal." (Coined by puurpel.)

Keywords: confusion, questioning

Daimogender
Daimogender: When you feel your gender is closely related to demons or the supernatural, although not exclusive for demonkin. A person does not require dysphoria to be daimogender. “Daimo” comes from the word “daimon,” which was the original greek word for “demon.”

Delphigender
Delphigender or Mystigender: A mysterious, mystical and obscure non-binary gender. (Coined by genderlord.)

Digigender
Digigender: Coined by furryhell. "a digital gender. it can range from any digital thing or file; virus, malware, .txt, .mp3, anti-virus, trojan, email, etc. gender can be replaced with girl, xirl, nonbinary, nb, enby, fluid, boy, boi, etc."

Keywords: abstract concepts, technology, symbols, aesthetic.

Dollgender
Dollgender: A gender that is fragile with soft feminine and/or neutral energy. Can be influenced by a strong association with dolls and/or a doll-related kintype. (Coined by Mogaiespeon.)

keywords: fragile, porcelain, doll, feminine, neutral, inanimate.

Donumgender
Donumgender: A gender that you have been reincarnated as as a reward given by a deity for good deeds in your past life. Your gender itself is a gift given to you, something to be treasured. (note: donumgender can be for any gender, for example, a deity granting you the ability to shift through genders rapidly as a secogender would be considered a donumgender if you feel that it is a gift, so you would be both secogender and donumgender).

Dryagender
Dryagender: A form of agender but with more of a connection to an empty forest. (In reference to the Greek nymphs). (Coined by maromoroney).

Dulcigender
Dulcigender: An aesthetically-centered gender that is associated largely with stereotypically feminine things (such as pinks, frills, buns, and general cute things). (Coined by transmomoi.)

Earthgender
Earthgender: “A gender identity that is directly affected, tied to, or influenced by the earth or nature. or; a gender identity similar to/the same as that of some form of earth deity. Note: this gender identity is not to be used by duotheistic pagans or wiccans, because of the general consensus in those faiths that the earth deity being worshiped (mother earth) is a female. it can be used by non-duotheistic pagans, non-wiccans, and non-pagan otherkin whose kintypes are nature-based (naturekin, forestkin, faekin, plantkin etc).” (Coined by anonymous).

Egogender
Egogender or Charagender: "latin/greek prefix ego, meaning self, i (first person); a gender that is solely based on yourself, and no words seem to define it other than me gender, [name] gender, i’m just who i am and my gender is mine" (Coined by queerspike and flynneleh). "One may also use (name)gender with their name inserted for a synonymous term."

Egoisgender
Egoisgender: "An egotistical gender, much like narkissisgender but generally it’s not as ‘intense’ as narkissisgender is so to speak. it can be used by anyone. gender can be replaced with boi, xirl, nonbinary, fluid, etc." (Coined by furryhell). The synonym of this word that can only be used by people who have narcissistic personality disorder is narkissisgender.

Ekragender
Ekragender: A gender you have blown up into a million pieces or destroyed by detonating or wish you could. Prefix from the Greek word εκραγεί meaning “explode.” (Coined by gyey.)

Eldrigender
Eldrigender: A gender (or possible lack thereof) which is dark, nebulous, and ultimately unknowable. Derived from the word "eldritch."

Elementgender
Elementgender: Where your gender consists of four primary parts that respectively feel linked to each element. (Coined by anonymous.)

Energender
Energender: A gender that seems to be like a ball of energy, shifting and moving rapidly and not being able to be quite pinned down, though its basic components are somewhat known, such as being partially female, partially male, partially anything really, but there being more core genders that are harder to pin down. Can be used in ways like Energender girl, Energender boy, Energender nb, etc. (Coined by anoddlittleplace.)

Ethegender
Ethegender, Delicagender, Daingender, Ethereagender, or Elegender: A gender up to interpretation by individuals, but in essence is an ethereal gender that is unable to be understood by either the individual or others; a gender that cannot be explained; a dainty, elegant, or delicate gender. (Coined by robotxt).

Faunagender
Faunagender: "A gender influenced by animals." (Coined by nooklicker). Keywords: animals, nature, beings

Fawngender
Fawngender or Deergender: A gender that is explored through timidity and caution, but blossoms into something natural and cute. (Coined by forteh.)

Felidaegender
Felidaegender, Feligender, Felisgender, or Felinegender: "A gender corresponding to cats. When you feel fuzzy, and fluffy, and really want your chin scratched." (Coined by gluskinner.)

Firegender
Firegender: A fluid gender in a constant state of change that never truly extinguishes. Aesthetically linked to fire as a visual metaphor or symbol. (Coined by deanwinchesterinmyheart.)

Flirtgender
Flirtgender, Amogender, or Genderamas: A gender identity where one’s feelings of gender are experienced through flirtiness. This can be through flirting with people or the word in general, or though flirting with gender itself. (Coined by fluiditylife.)

Frostgender
Frostgender (coined by asperdemigirl in 2014) is defined as "A gender which is cold and very snowy."

Freezegender
Freezegender: "Similar to frostgender, but it also encompasses other genders as well. For example, a freezegirl would be experiencing both a cold and snowy gender but also having a connection to femininity or girl-ness." (Coined by asperdemigirl.)

Keywords: nature, demigender, temperature, season, synaesthesia

Gendercosm
Gendercosm: A gender identity encompassing and surpassing the limits of the earth/society, but doesn’t incorporate existing genders from society; a gender identity so grand and huge it cannot be explained by words. the opposite of gendervoid.

Genderopaque
Genderopaque: "A gender experience that is neither transparent or translucent." (Coined by curiosityismysin.)

Keywords: shape, synaesthesia, texture

Gendersea
Gendersea: "Like gendervoid [see below], but related to the ocean. your gender is a vast sea of caverns and depths yet to be discovered. free for all to use but made with otherkin related to the ocean or sea creatures in mind." (Coined by anonymous). Keywords: animals, elements, nature, water

Gendervoid
Gendervoid: "A gender consisting of the void (also/originally used to mean the same thing as genderless)." (Coined by Baaphomett). Keywords: size, shape, texture, abstract concepts

Glitchgender
Glitchgender: "You may or may not have a gender, but either way it’s glitched and confusing. note: ideal for glitchkin/techkin/etc but nonkin can use it too!" Not to be confused with genderglitch. (Coined by wrinkledough). Keywords: genderless, monogender, technology, questioning

Hydrogender
Hydrogender: A gender which shares qualities with or be compared to qualities of water; i.e. currents, tides, etc.

Lamingender
Lamingender: "A gender experience composed of layers or slices." (Coined by curiosityismysin.) Keywords: shape, texture, abstract concepts, synaesthesia

Microgender and macrogender
Microgender and Macrogender: "Small and large feelings of gender that are not identifiable within social gender categories." (Coined by Baaphomett). Keywords: size, shape, space

Monstergender
Monstergender, Monstigender, or Cryptigender: A gender that is related to/influenced by monsters. (For monsterkin or cryptidkin, but can be used for nonkin)

Necrogender
Necrogender: A gender that used to exist but is now 'dead' or nonexistent. (Coined by Baaphomett).

Preciogender
Preciogender or Precique: A gender which feels special and precious to you.

Wintgender
Wintgender, Wintegender, or Wintergender. (Coined by asperdemigirl in 2014). Similar to blizzgender, but it encompasses a second gender. A winteboy might experience both a cold, harsh, and snowy gender, but also being male or have some connection to masculinity, for example.

Wolfsbanegender
Wolfsbanegender: A xenogender that is elegant yet extremely poisonous. The poisonous aspects give a sense of protection to the one who identifies with the term. (Coined by Mogaiespeon.)

Keywords: Elegant, poison.