Femme (or fem) is a term that refers to a queer person that has a gender expression considered to be feminine. It was originally used to distinguish feminine lesbian and bisexual women from butch women, and it is still one of the main uses of the term. It's common for trans and non-binary individuals to use the term to refer to their identity or expression even if they don't identify as lesbian or bisexual women. However, this last usage is a bit controversial.
Difference between femme and feminine
The word femme can only be used to describe people in the LGBTQ+ spectrum. That means that cisgender straight women should use the term to describe themselves.[note 1] Because there are many stereotypes surrounding femininity, the term femme is often used to subvert cultural expectations about how a woman should look like. For this reason, many (but not all) people that identify as femme do not try to adhere to these stereotypes. This is similar to how the word queer was reclaimed by the LGBTQ community.
Use within the nonbinary community
- What Does Femme Mean? The Difference Between Being Femme & Being Feminine on Bustler.com
- On the appropriation of femme on Lesbians over everything
- Note that, in French, femme means woman.This articles is about the English usage of this word.