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'''Femme''' is a term that refers to a queer person whose [[gender expression]] is considered to be [[feminine]]. It was originally used to distinguish feminine [[lesbian]] and [[bisexual]] women from [[butch]] women, and it is still one of the main uses of the term. It is common for trans and nonbinary individuals to use the term to refer to their identity or expression even if they do not identify as lesbian or bisexual women.<ref name="Tonic">{{Cite web |title=What Does Femme Mean? The Difference Between Being Femme & Being Feminine |last=Tonic |first=Gina |work=Bustle |date=24 August 2016 |access-date=28 April 2020 |url= https://www.bustle.com/articles/166081-what-does-femme-mean-the-difference-between-being-femme-being-feminine}}</ref> However, this last usage is has been gatekept by the lesbian community.<ref name=":0">[http://lesbiansovereverything.com/on-the-appropriation-of-femme/ On the appropriation of femme] on Lesbians over everything (lesbiansovereverything.com)</ref> A common definition of femme is someone who queers or subverts femininity, as opposed to a butch person, who rejects femininity.<ref name="Shewan">{{Cite web |title=Are you Femme? What Femme Isn’t and What it is. |last=Shewan |first=Briana |work=affirmativecouch.com |date=15 February 2019 |access-date=28 April 2020 |url= https://affirmativecouch.com/are-you-femme-what-femme-isnt-and-what-it-is/ |quote=Femmes may have any gender identity; some consider femme their gender identity, whileother femmes may have a different gender identity (such as transwoman, nonbinary, cis-woman, [[genderfluid]], [[agender]], etc.) and consider femme their gender expression}}</ref> Femme is also sometimes used as a gender in itself.<ref>{{cite web|title=Ain't No Girl…Femme! Queer Femme Identity and Art Making (master's thesis)|date=2016|first=Elyse|last=Schauer |url =https://www.academia.edu/28231820/Aint_No_Girl_Femme_Queer_Femme_Identity_and_Art_Making_Masters_Thesis_|quote=Although some may be aware of the terms ''butch'' and ''femme'', as applied to lesbian women, there is little awareness of femme outside of a lesbian context.  Femme can actually indicate a gender that is altogether separate from ''woman'', and people across gender presentations and sexualities may embrace femme in a queer context.}}</ref>

International Femme Appreciation Day is celebrated on the first Saturday of July.<ref name="Lapachet">{{Cite web |title=International Femme Appreciation Day |last=Lapachet |first=María |work=A Femme in NYC |date=3 July 2014 |access-date=22 June 2020 |url= https://afemmeinnyc.wordpress.com/2014/07/03/international-femme-appreciation-day-2/}}</ref><ref name="QE">{{Cite web |title=Lesbian Culture & Visibility |author= |work=QueerEvents.ca |date= |access-date=22 June 2020 |url= https://queerevents.ca/queer-culture/lesbian-visibility}}</ref>

Femme has been used for women as well as men<ref name="LOTB">{{Cite web |title=Glossary |author= |work=Life Outside The Binary: Nonbinary Transgender Information Centre |date= |access-date=11 November 2020 |url= https://lifeoutsidethebinary.com/glossary}}</ref><ref name="michelson">{{Cite web |title=This Is What Femme Looks Like |last=Michelson |first=Noah |work=HuffPost |date=2 February 2016 |access-date=7 November 2020 |url= https://www.huffpost.com/entry/whatfemmelookslike_n_5890738}}</ref><ref>{{cite journal|title=What Feminists Can Learn From The Lesbian Sex Radicals|last=Nichols|first=Margaret|journal=Conditions|date=1987|issue=14|page=161|quote=For some women, gender is less important than s/m identity; for others it is less important than some other aspect of personality. Still others are attracted only to butches or only to femmes—but they can be male or female butches or male or female femmes.|url=https://voices.revealdigital.org/cgi-bin/independentvoices?a=d&d=DCDCDIG19870101&e=-------en-20--1--txt-txIN---------------1}}</ref><ref name="Roseninterview">{{Cite web |title=‘I wanted to capture this idea that femme men are considered less than by the queer community’: TQ talks to Lev A.C. Rosen |author= |work=The Queerness |date=3 August 2020 |access-date=26 March 2021 |url= https://thequeerness.com/2020/08/03/i-wanted-to-capture-this-idea-that-femme-men-are-considered-less-than-by-the-queer-community-tq-talks-to-lev-a-c-rosen/}}</ref>, and also for people outside of the gender binary.<ref name="Shewan" /><ref name="Bashan">{{Cite web |title=What Does It Mean To Be Femme? |author=Bashan, Frankie |work=Little Gay Book |date=7 September 2020 |access-date=29 September 2020 |url= https://www.littlegaybook.com/what-it-means-to-be-femme/}}</ref><ref>[https://twitter.com/search?q=%23FemmesCanBeThems&src=typed_query&f=live Twitter hashtag #FemmesCanBeThems]</ref> Nonbinary femmes struggle against the misconception that nonbinary people must have an [[Androgyny|androgynous]] expression, since their own expression is feminine.<ref name="smith">{{Cite web |title=Beyond the binary: Yes, nonbinary femmes exist |last=smith |first=s.e. |work=this ain't livin' |date=27 April 2015 |access-date=28 April 2020 |url= http://meloukhia.net/2015/04/beyond_the_binary_yes_nonbinary_femmes_exist/ }}</ref>

* [[Niecy Blues]] is an American musician who describes themself as an [[agender]] femme.<ref name="Oyer">{{Cite web |title=SC women, nonbinary guitarists participate in She Shreds Media riff a day challenge |last=Oyer |first=Kalyn |work=Post and Courier |date=January 28, 2021 |access-date=January 30, 2021 |url= https://www.postandcourier.com/charleston_scene/sc-women-nonbinary-guitarists-participate-in-she-shreds-media-riff-a-day-challenge/article_61a350ac-5aa2-11eb-99b5-2b69d9330965.html}}</ref>

* [[Kate Bornstein]] (b. 1948) is an author, playwright, performance artist, and gender theorist. Bornstein is "a non-binary femme-identified trans person".<ref name="Raymond">{{Cite web |title=Interview: Kate Bornstein on Their Broadway Debut in Straight White Men |last=Raymond |first=Gerard |work=Slant Magazine |date=July 11, 2018 |access-date=May 16, 2020 |url= https://www.slantmagazine.com/interviews/pretty-damn-bowie-kate-bornstein-on-their-broadway-debut-in-straight-white-men/}}</ref>

* [[Sand Chang|Sand C. Chang]], PhD., is a Chinese-American clinical psychologist and educator.<ref name="tran_Sand">{{Cite web |title=Sand Chang |author= |work=Trans Bodies, Trans Selves |date= |access-date=6 April 2020 |url= http://transbodies.com/people/sand-chang-2/}}</ref> Dr. Chang is one of the authors of ''A Clinician's Guide to Gender-Affirming Care: Working with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Clients''. They are [[nonbinary]], [[genderqueer]], [[genderfluid]], [[demiboy]],<ref name="yout_Ep69">{{Cite web |title=Ep 69 Dr. Sand Chang Licensed Psychologist Interview |last=Kramer |first=Kaiya |work=The Queer Life Radio |date=11 December 2015 |access-date=6 April 2020 |url= https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GtFtRleENew}}</ref> and femme.<ref name="Harrison">{{Cite web |title=Food Psych #150: Disordered Eating & Gender Identity with Sand Chang |first=Christy|last= Harrison |date=2 April 2018 |access-date=28 April 2020 |url= https://christyharrison.com/foodpsych/5/eating-disorder-recovery-gender-identity-with-sand-chang}}</ref>

* [[Sharon daVanport]] is an activist who founded what is now the Autistic Women & Nonbinary Network (formerly Autism Women's Network<ref name="Ho">{{Cite web |title=Disability & Intersectionality Summit: Interview with Sharon daVanport |author=Ho, Sandy |work=Disability Visibility Project |date=7 May 2018 |access-date=28 May 2020 |url= https://disabilityvisibilityproject.com/2018/05/07/disability-intersectionality-summit-interview-with-sharon-davanport/}}</ref>). DaVanport is a nonbinary femme.<ref name="ECE">{{Cite web |title=PEOPLE: Why Sharon daVanport built a support network for autistic women and nonbinary people |author= |work=Echo Chamber Escape |date=May 26, 2020 |access-date=May 28, 2020 |url= https://echochamberescape.com/2020/05/26/people-why-sharon-davanport-built-a-support-network-for-autistic-women-and-nonbinary-people}}</ref>

* [[Ericka Hart]] is a sexuality educator and activist. She is a Black [[queer]] nonbinary femme.<ref name="Finley">{{Cite web |title=Ericka Hart Is On A Journey To Dismantle Medical Racism |last=Finley |first=Taryn |work=HuffPost |date=February 8, 2019 |access-date=October 6, 2020 |url= https://www.huffpost.com/entry/hbm-ericka-hart_n_5c3f4ce4e4b0e0baf5436b3b}}</ref>

* [[Sassafras Lowrey]] is an author and journalist, known for hir  books about dogs.<ref name="Metraux">{{Cite web |title=How Sassafras Lowrey Made Writing About Dogs a Career |last=Métraux |first=Julia |work=Narratively |date=6 March 2020 |access-date=8 May 2020 |url= https://narratively.com/how-sassafras-lowrey-made-writing-about-dogs-a-career/}}</ref> Lowrey is [[genderqueer]], [[trans]], femme, queer, polyamorous, and [[asexual]].<ref>{{cite tweet|user= sassafraslowrey|number= 1182723625448685568|date=11 October 2019|title=and to have made a core aspect of my career around writing the queerest books and stories I can imagine. Happy #NationalComingOutDay Queerly yours a: #runaway, formerly #homeless, #genderqueer, #trans, #femme, #queer, #polyamorous, #asexual, #little, #leather boy}}</ref>

* [[Mauree Turner]], American politician and community organizer. Turner is a nonbinary femme<ref name="tweet11052020">{{cite tweet|user=MaureeTurnerOK|number=1324394753790742539|date=5 November 2020|title=That's me! Mauree Turner. Pronouns They & She (not preferred, just pronouns) I am a born n raised Muslim-Oklahoman. Non-binary femme, & community organizer. The work I've been doing with, in, & for my community goes back years.}}</ref> who was the first nonbinary person elected to a state legislature in the USA.<ref name="Smith-Mauree">{{Cite web |title=Mauree Turner is the first nonbinary and first Muslim Oklahoma state lawmaker |last=Smith |first=Kelsie |work=CNN |date=5 November 2020 |access-date=5 November 2020 |url= https://www.cnn.com/2020/11/05/politics/first-nonbinary-and-muslim-oklahoma-lawmaker/index.html}}</ref>

*{{Cite web |title=Five Queer People on What 'Femme' Means to Them |last=Donish |first=Cassie |work=Vice |date=5 December 2017 |access-date=8 June 2020 |url= https://www.vice.com/en_uk/article/d3x8m7/five-queer-people-on-what-femme-means-to-them}} (note: article contains reclaimed slurs)

*{{Cite web |title=The Many Definitions (and the Continuing Evolution) of the Word "Femme" |work=them. |date=19 July 2018 |access-date=13 June 2020 |url= https://www.them.us/story/inqueery-femme}}

*{{Cite web |title=What We Mean When We Say "Femme": A Roundtable |url=https://www.autostraddle.com/what-we-mean-when-we-say-femme-a-roundtable-341842/ |work= Autostraddle |date=18 July 2016 |access-date=25 August 2020}}