Gender neutral language in English: Difference between revisions

Although English has grammatical gender, it's only a vestige of what it once had. Old English once had grammatical gender for inanimate objects, but this practice started to disappear in the 700s, and vanished in the 1200s. The population of England at that time spoke several languages, and the same inanimate objects had different genders in those different languages. They may have stopped using that part entirely just to make it simpler. English stopped using grammatical gender for inanimate objects, but it still uses grammatical gender for people and personal pronouns.<ref>Dictionary.com. "English used to have gendered nouns?! Yes!" May 16, 2012. ''Dictionary.com'' (blog). [http://blog.dictionary.com/oldenglishgender/ http://blog.dictionary.com/oldenglishgender/]</ref> There is enough to make a challenge for nonbinary people who don't want gendered language to be used for them.

Gender-neutral language has become common in English today largely thanks to the pioneering work by feminists Casey Miller and Kate Swift. During the 1970s, they began the work of encouraging inclusive language, as an alternative to sexist language that excludes or dehumanizes women. Miller and Swift wrote a manual on gender-neutral language, ''The Handbook of Nonsexist Writing'' (1980). Miller and Swift also proposed a set of gender-neutral pronouns, [[English neutral pronouns#Tey|tey]], although they later favored [[English neutral pronouns#They|singular they]], or [[English neutral pronouns#He or she|he or she]].<ref>Elizabeth Isele, "Casey Miller and Kate Swift: Women who dared to disturb the lexicon." http://scholar.lib.vt.edu/ejournals/old-WILLA/fall94/h2-isele.html </ref> There are several books on gender-neutral English, such as Rosalie Maggio's book ''The Nonsexist Word Finder: A Dictionary of Gender-Free Usage'' (1989).

* Shazam'''.''' Neutral, coined by a highschool student wishing to address a nonbinary teacher with a formal term of respect.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.facebook.com/groups/1601168520209978/|title=Facebook Groups|website=www.facebook.com|language=en|access-date=2020-11-18}}</ref>

* Zam'''.''' Neutral, based on shazam, coined by Arin Wolfe.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.facebook.com/groups/1601168520209978/|title=Facebook Groups|website=www.facebook.com|language=en|access-date=2020-11-18}}</ref>

(Note 2: Some nonbinary people dislike "enby" and feel it is infantilizing.<ref>https://nonbinarywiki.tumblr.com/post/621003149724041217/on-enby-and-age</ref>)

* '''Baba.''' "Neutral, based on mama and dada. (Note, baba means dad in some languages and grandmother in others.)"<ref name="titles queeries">"Gender neutral/queer titles." ''Gender Queeries.'' [http://genderqueeries.tumblr.com/titles http://genderqueeries.tumblr.com/titles]</ref>

* '''Maddy.''' "Queer, mixture of mummy/mommy and daddy."<ref name="titles queeries" /> Note: Sometimes used to mean a [[trans woman]] who has children.<ref name="Lane-glossary">{{Cite web |title=LGBTQ Glossary |last=Lane |first=S. Nicole |work=Chicago Reader |date=26 June 2019 |access-date=18 November 2020 |url= https://www.chicagoreader.com/chicago/lgbtq-glossary/Content?oid=71278133}}</ref>

*'''Moppa / Mopa.'''  A mix of mommy and papa.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.same-sexparents.com/post/gender-neutral-non-binary-parent-titles|title=Gender Neutral/Non-Binary Parent Titles|last=Parents|first=Same Sex|date=2019-03-22|website=Same Sex Parents|language=en|access-date=2020-11-18}}</ref>

https://ithelpstodream.tumblr.com/post/161695436793 </ref>

*'''Chitlin.''' A way of saying child, often{{citation needed}} used when referring to a nonbinary child. (More commonly means "pig intestines.")<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/chitlins|title=Definition of CHITLINS|website=www.merriam-webster.com|language=en|access-date=2021-08-06}}</ref>

|word1 = Auncle|meaning1 = Combination of aunt and uncle.|ref1 = <ref>[https://twitter.com/NonbinaryWiki/status/1075824956733317121 Poll on Twitter].</ref>

* '''Entle.''' "Non-standard alternative that combines the sounds of ''aunt'' and ''uncle'' in a single word."<ref>[https://overexplainingautistic.tumblr.com/post/172886551884/gender-neutral-variant-of-auntuncle?is_related_post=1 Gender neutral variant of aunt/uncle] by Over Explaining Autistic</ref>

|word1 = Nibling|meaning1 = Non-standard gender neutral term for "niece/nephew".|ref1 = <ref>[http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/nibling Coined by linguist Samuel E. Martin in 1951 from nephew/niece by analogy with sibling.]</ref>

* '''Niephling.''' Neutral, mixture of niece, nephew, and sibling. <ref>Jed Hartman. "nibling, niephling, niefling, etc" Oct. 27, 2008. ''Neology'' (blog) https://www.kith.org/journals/neology/2008/10/nibling_niephling_niefling_etc.html</ref>

* '''Niephew.''' "A mixture of niece and nephew."<ref name="Lang">{{Cite web |title=Cory Booker: Nonbinary ‘Niephew’ Taught Me How to Be Trans Ally |last=Lang |first=Nico |work=out.com |date=21 August 2019 |access-date=9 June 2020 |url= https://www.out.com/politics/2019/8/21/cory-booker-nonbinary-niephew-taught-me-how-be-trans-ally}}</ref>

*'''Joyfriend.''' "Neutral, cute, based on girlfriend, boyfriend, and theyfriend. <ref>https://realtransfacts.tumblr.com/post/187145281108/enbyfriend-theyfriend-joyfriend</ref><ref>{{cite tweet|user=ThatBoyYouLike|number=1162219438667472898|title=If your partner is non-binary you got a joyfriend|date=15 August 2019}}</ref>

* '''Fiancé'''. While traditionally only used for men, it is becoming more common to use it gender-neutrally, for example: "Matt called his fiancé and told her to come to the office."<ref>{{cite web|title=fiancé | url=https://en.wiktionary.org/w/index.php?title=fianc%C3%A9&oldid=62609218|date=26 May 2021 |access-date=28 May 2021|work=Wiktionary, The Free Dictionary.}}</ref><ref name="dict_Fian">{{Cite web |title=Fiancé vs. Fiancée: Which One Is Which? |author= |work=Dictionary.com |date=6 May 2019 |access-date=28 May 2021 |url= https://www.dictionary.com/e/fiance-vs-fiancee/ |quote=there appears to be a growing trend toward using ''fiancé'' as the gender-neutral form for both a man and a woman. }}</ref>

*'''-ling.''' Gender neutral Old English suffix for someone involved in something. Can be used in place of "-man", "-person" or "-woman" as a suffix for occupation, such as "businessling".<ref>[https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/52135/3-facts-about-english%E2%80%99s-most-adorable-suffix-ling#:~:text=JUST%20A%20GENERAL%20NOUN%2DMAKER,fiction%20meaning%20came%20much%20later https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/52135/3-facts-about-english%E2%80%99s-most-adorable-suffix-ling]</ref>

* '''Movie star''' or '''TV star'''. Standard gender neutral terms for "actor"/"actress", although increasingly the word "actor" is being used regardless of gender,<ref name="Hartzer">{{Cite web |title=Gender Neutral: Actor |last=Hartzer |first=Paul |work=Medium |date=2 January 2020 |access-date=3 July 2020 |url= https://medium.com/@paulhartzer/gender-neutral-actor-90f5ff200f4d}}</ref> including by some nonbinary stars such as [[Asia Kate Dillon]].<ref name="Dillon2020">{{Cite web |title='Billions' Star Asia Kate Dillon Calls for SAG Awards to Abolish Gender-Specific Categories (EXCLUSIVE) |last=Dillon |first=Asia Kate |work=Variety |date=10 June 2020 |access-date=3 July 2020 |url= https://variety.com/2020/tv/news/asia-kate-dillon-billions-sag-awards-open-letter-1234630871/#!}}</ref>

* '''Wix'''. Neologistic gender neutral term for a magic user (akin to "witch"/"wizard"). Originated in Harry Potter fandom<ref>https://wixenzine.tumblr.com/about</ref>, created by tumblr blog magicqueers.<ref>https://fanlore.org/wiki/Wix</ref> However, many people view "witch" as gender neutral instead of specific to women.<ref>[https://getbewitched.tumblr.com/post/622284433430609920/are-you-still-a-witch-if Are you still a witch if:]</ref><ref>[https://black-raven200.tumblr.com/post/622866451403063296/the-term-witch-is-gender-neutral-pass-it-on The term “witch” is gender neutral, pass it on]</ref><ref>[https://ravenhexxx.tumblr.com/post/190956765857 A witch is a witch regardless of gender]</ref>