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[[Boi]] (pronounced the same as "boy"; plural "bois") is a term with many meanings. Broadly, it indicates "[[masculinity]] which is not cisheteronormative."<ref>{{cite book|title=The A-Z of Gender and Sexuality|page=56|year=2019|isbn=9781784506636}}</ref> This identity originated in multiple subcultures in the mid-to-late 1990s. It was also widely adopted as a self-descriptor by gay men at the time. Some lesbian youth who are more masculine and those who identify as trans employ this term as they have yet to define a common vernacular to describe themselves. Other variations include queerboi<ref name="Marech" /> and transboi,<ref name="Marech" /> and if one's lover or partner identifies as a boi, it's common to say they are one's boifriend.

In the 2019 Worldwide Gender Census, 76 of the responses (0.68%)  said they were a boi, or used boi as part of a word for their identity, such as [[femme]] boi, femboi, tomboi, or [[demigender|demiboi]].<ref name="2019 Gender Census">"Gender Census 2019 - The Worldwide tl;dr." ''Gender Census'' (blog). March 31, 2019. Retrieved July 7, 2020. https://gendercensus.com/post/183843963445/gender-census-2019-the-worldwide-tldr Archive: https://web.archive.org/web/20200118084451/https://gendercensus.com/post/183843963445/gender-census-2019-the-worldwide-tldr</ref>

Some other [[genderqueer]] masculine identities like boi are ag, [[butch]], [[masculine of center]], [[stone butch]], stud, [[tomboy]], and [[transmasculine]].<ref>"Who we are." ''Butch Voices.'' http://www.butchvoices.com/who-we-are/ [https://web.archive.org/web/20230602190115/https://www.butchvoices.com/who-we-are/ Archived] on 17 July 2023</ref> Each of these words have their own nuances of meaning, which can be very different from one community to the next.

==History==

The book ''Mediated Boyhoods: Boys, Teens, and Young Men in Popular Media and Culture'' tells about how the word "boi" originated in hip-hop music with no queer context:

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"In the early 1990s, a young, Georgia-based musician named Antoine Patton adopted the performance name 'Big Boi' ('Outkast,' 2006, 357) [...] in the early 1990s his usage did not announce a different manifestation of masculinity…on the contrary, with the performer’s dress, clothes, and mannerisms readily identifiable as masculine, Big Boi’s personal appearance and gender identity were largely conventional. His reconfiguration of the word 'boy,' therefore, was more likely a play off the racially charged meaning that has long been associated with the term, given the long history of whites, especially in the South where Patton hailed, calling adult black men by the diminutive term 'boy.' Akin to the process of other marginalized groups throughout the 1990s reclaiming formerly pejorative terms [...] Patton’s use of the word both recalled this history and rewrote it…

"As the 1990s progressed, the term 'boi' [...] morphed into new socio-cultural forms—and ones that did not embody a mere homophonic respelling of the word 'boy' but signaled a new form of masculine gender expression. Young men involved in both the skate and rave scenes, for instance, adopted the moniker 'boi' to denote their rejection—either in part or in full—of hegemonic forms of masculinity and their subscription to a softer, more sensitive identity."<ref>''Mediated Boyhoods,'' quoted by the Genderqueer Identities blog. http://genderqueerid.com/post/52144260437/hello-i-once-heard-somebody-say-the-term-boi [https://web.archive.org/web/20221022131652/https://genderqueerid.com/post/52144260437/hello-i-once-heard-somebody-say-the-term-boi Archived] on 17 July 2023</ref>
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The author posits that the word may have been a reclaimed slur and goes on to tell how boi is used "in emo, BDSM, gay, lesbian, and genderqueer communities" and  <ref>http://genderqueerid.com/post/52144260437/hello-i-once-heard-somebody-say-the-term-boi [https://web.archive.org/web/20221022131652/https://genderqueerid.com/post/52144260437/hello-i-once-heard-somebody-say-the-term-boi Archived] on 17 July 2023</ref>. Those interested in the word should read what is visible in the [https://books.google.com/books?id=RIlOxnMIGfQC&amp;lpg=PA17&amp;dq=%22boi%22+black+gender&amp;pg=PA17&amp;hl=en#v=onepage&amp;q=%22boi%22%20black%20gender&amp;f=false Google Books scan of that book].

The word "boi" appeared in various communities during the 1990s (e.g. masculine-of-center lesbians, [[butch]] [[drag]] kings, and submissive BDSM partners, etc.) none of which were in any way black-specific. Rap artists didn't begin incorporating the word "boi" into their lyrics until circa 2000 (at least, given the available liner notes). The first use of this word in a song title was likely "Dope Boi Fresh" released in 2002.<ref>"Boi Fancy: Identity Politics and the History of Boi in Queer Spaces" June 20, 2018. http://www.boifancy.com/ [https://web.archive.org/web/20230226171340/http://www.boifancy.com/ Archived] on 17 July 2023</ref>

==Variety of meanings==

Boi is used within LGBTQ+ and [[butch]]/[[femme]] communities for a person's [[sexual orientation]] and/or [[gender identity]]. It has many different meanings, in each community, and within those communities. Some of these are:

* An umbrella term for many different queer masculine identities. For example, the bklyn boihood organization defines boi this way: "We are [[Trans man|transmen]], [[stud]]s, doms, [[butch]]es, tomboys, queens, [[Ag]]s-all self-identified bois and queers of color striving for visibility, self-affirmation using our stories, journeys, and talents."<ref>"bklyn boihood." https://prezi.com/ybttsym4mewd/bklyn-boihood/ [https://web.archive.org/web/20220624041702/https://prezi.com/ybttsym4mewd/bklyn-boihood/ Archived] on 17 July 2023</ref> Queer theorist Julia Horncastle says that "''boi'' and ''boy'' [...] describe a type of masculine identity adopted by people on a [[butch]] and/or [[Transmasculine|FTM]] or [[Transfeminine|MTF]] and/or [[queer]] and/or [[genderfuck]] spectrum."<ref>{{cite journal|title=Queer Bisexuality: Perceptions of Bisexual Existence, Distinctions, and Challenges|journal=Journal of Bisexuality|year=2008|last1=Horncastle|first1=Julia|volume=8|doi=10.1080/15299710802142192|quote=At a micro-level ''boi'' and ''boy'', for example, are slang terms used to describe a type of masculine identity adopted by people on a [[butch]] and/or FTM or MTF and/or queer and/or [[genderfuck]] spectrum.}}</ref>
* The Genderqueer Identities blog says, "Use of 'boi' outside of relation to transgender spaces specifically seems to be strongly associated with African American men's culture (see results for 'pretty boi', for example)."
* Among gay men, a boi can be "a boyish gay guy."<ref name="Marech">{{Cite web |title=Nuances of gay identities reflected in new language / 'Homosexual' is passé in a 'boi's' life |author=Marech, Rona |work=SFGate |date=8 February 2004 |access-date=12 June 2020 |url= https://www.sfgate.com/news/article/Nuances-of-gay-identities-reflected-in-new-2824367.php|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230107152842/https://www.sfgate.com/news/article/Nuances-of-gay-identities-reflected-in-new-2824367.php |archive-date=17 July 2023 }}</ref> Gay men may use the word boi for young bisexual or gay men who are [[feminine]].<ref name="Marech" />
* In the lesbian community, "a 'boi' is a younger lesbian that typically looks and acts like a guy. She dresses in clothes designed for men, has a boyish hairstyle and carries herself like a dude [...] older lesbians generally aren't referred to as 'bois.' I’m 31. Hell, I'm taking this term to the grave with me. Simply because I'd rather not be called [butch]."<ref>{{cite web|author=Riley|title=Don't call me butch: What kind of lez are you?|date=21 September 2011|archive-date=16 January 2014|url=http://lezgetreal.com/2011/09/dont-call-me-butch-what-kind-of-lez-are-you/|work=Lez Get Real|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20140116213509/http://lezgetreal.com/2011/09/dont-call-me-butch-what-kind-of-lez-are-you/|access-date=29 July 2017|url-status=live}}</ref> One definition of a lesbian boi is one who has casual sex, in contrast with the stereotype of the "U-Haul lesbian" (women so monogamous that they move in together on the second date), and are said to be more like young, sexually free adult men than butches, who are said to be more like mature, settled, football-watching married men.<ref>{{cite web|title=Where the Bois Are|work=New York Magazine|url=http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/features/n_9709/|date=2 January 2004|last=Levy|first=Ariel|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230425035826/http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/features/n_9709/|archive-date=17 July 2023}}</ref> Some define boi simply as a younger butch lesbian.<ref name="Crain">{{cite web|last=Crain|first=Chris|date=22 November 2007|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20120329004401/http://www.sfbaytimes.com/index.php?sec=article&article_id=7066|archive-date=29 March 2012|title=Who's The Fairest Twink Of Them All?|url=http://www.sfbaytimes.com/index.php?sec=article&article_id=7066|work=San Francisco Bay Times}} '''Note: Article contains the t****y slur multiple times.'''</ref>
* Ariel Levy, in her book ''Female Chauvinist Pigs'', interviews several bois, one of whom said, "To me, a boi is someone who doesn't have so much to prove. Bois are kind of dirty. Sexually dirty, but also we’re not in the clean, pressed, buttoned-up world... we're like little urchins. A lot of us are artists." Another boi said "I never really wanted to grow up, which is what a lot of the boi identity is about. I want to go out and have a good time! I want to be able to go out to the bar at night and go to parties and go to the amusement park and play. That sense of play-- that's a big difference from being a [[butch]]. To me, butch is like adult. If you're a butch, you're a grown-up: You're the man of the house."<ref>{{cite book| last=Levy| first=Ariel |title=Female Chauvinist Pigs |chapter=Womyn to Bois |year=2005}}</ref>
* A transgender man who is young, and/or who is early in his [[transition]].<ref name="Crain" />
* In the BDSM community, bois "are usually female submissives or bottoms and usually have a female Daddy. They are typically masculine or 'butch'."<ref>{{cite web|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190315053634/http://www.bdsm-education.com/terminology.html|archive-date=15 March 2019|title=BDSM Terminology For Newbies|work=BDSM Education|url=http://www.bdsm-education.com/terminology.html}}</ref>
* Some transgender people who were [[assigned female at birth]] identify as bois rather than-- or in addition to-- identifying as [[transgender men]]. One such person explained why: "Justin, who is 19 and didn't want to use his last name because he's not out to his family as transgender, calls himself a 'boi' -- with an 'i' -- because he feels like a boy -- with a 'y' -- but 'I don't have the boy parts, as much as I wish I did.' 'I'm still learning the ropes of just being me,' he added."<ref name="Marech" />
* Some people who were assigned female at birth call themselves bois to mean that they partly or completely don't identify as feminine, female, a girl, or a woman. Some of these bois identify as transgender or intersex.<ref>Faderman, Lillian; Stuart Timmons (2006). Gay L.A.: A History of Sexual Outlaws, Power Politics, and Lipstick Lesbians. Basic Books. ISBN 0-465-02288-X. Retrieved 2008-06-23.</ref>
* Some people who call themselves bois see boi as a [[genderqueer]] identity or nonbinary gender. They may see themselves as transgender or [[cisgender]]. Their style of dress may combine masculine and feminine gender expressions, in an expression called "[[genderfuck]]." They may go by "he," "she," or [[pronouns|gender neutral pronouns]].<ref>{{Cite web |title=Boi or grrl? Pop culture redefining gender |author= |work=MSNBC |date=1 October 2005 |access-date=29 September 2020 |url= http://www.nbcnews.com/id/9556134/ns/us_news-life/t/boi-or-grrl-pop-culture-redefining-gender/|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20201102165023/https://www.nbcnews.com/id/9556134/ns/us_news-life/t/boi-or-grrl-pop-culture-redefining-gender/ |archive-date=17 July 2023 }}</ref>

People have the right to self-identify, but they also need to self-identify responsibly, with awareness of their label's history, whether it is cultural appropriation, and whether it is the most accurate label they can find. Part of the usefulness of this wiki is in helping people do that, so they can research a label's history and meaning, and make sure they have the most accurate one.

==Notable people==
Some notable people outside the Western [[gender binary]] who have described themselves as "boi" include: 

* Indie-pop musician [[Anjimile]]<ref name="anjimile">{{cite tweet|user=anjimilemusic|number=1100129113480880128|title=thank u thank u :) however I am not a girl, I'm a non-binary transmasc queer boi who uses they/them and he/him pronouns 🤘🏾|date=Feb 25, 2019}}</ref>
* American writer and model [[Devin-Norelle]] describes [[English_neutral_pronouns#Ze|zimself]]<ref>[https://www.instagram.com/SteroidBeyonce/ Instagram profile], accessed 29 July 2020 [https://web.archive.org/web/20230607102022/https://www.instagram.com/steroidbeyonce Archived] on 17 July 2023</ref> as [[nonbinary]]<ref name="Michael">{{Cite web |title=Meet Devin-Norelle, Chromat's First Masculine of Center Model |author=Michael Love Michael |work=PAPER |date=9 September 2019 |access-date=29 July 2020 |url= https://www.papermag.com/devin-norelle-chromat-2640274990.html?rebelltitem=10#rebelltitem10 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20211209012845/https://www.papermag.com/devin-norelle-chromat-2640274990.html?rebelltitem=10 |archive-date=17 July 2023 }}</ref> and a boi.<ref name="not a man">{{cite web|url=https://transparentgender.tumblr.com/post/179556497367/im-not-a-man-yet-not-a-women|date=29 October 2018|title=I'm not a man, yet not a women.|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230719071051/https://transparentgender.tumblr.com/post/179556497367/im-not-a-man-yet-not-a-women|archive-date=19 July 2023|access-date=3 October 2020|url-status=bot: unknown}}</ref>
* Performance artist and musician [[Dua Saleh]]<ref>{{cite tweet|last=Saleh|first=Dua|user=doitlikedua|number=1274796748502958081|title=I mainly use they/them and occasionally he/him pronouns.<br><br>Some terms I accept and terms I don’t accept, in that order.<br><br>[White heavy check mark]: king, bro, fam, boi, Mx., Mr., sir, dude, man, gentlethem, stan account etc<br><br>[No entry sign]: queen, sis, girl, gurl, woman, etc|date=21 June 2020}}</ref>

== Boi characters in fiction ==

''See main article: [[Nonbinary gender in fiction#Nonbinary genders in fiction|Nonbinary gender in fiction]]''

There are many more [[Nonbinary gender in fiction#Nonbinary genders in fiction|characters in fiction who have a gender identity outside of the binary]]. The following are some of those characters who are specifically identified as "boi" either in their canon, or by their creators.

* ''Down to the Bone'', a young-adult book by Mayra Dole, contains a character named Tazer who self-describes as [[genderqueer]] and a boi. [[He/him]] pronouns are used for Tazer. Content warning: The main plot involves the protagonist being kicked out of her home because of her sexuality, and there are some LGBT-phobic opinions expressed by characters, as well as use of semi-reclaimed slurs that could be triggering to readers.<ref>{{cite book|title=Down to the Bone|year=2008|last= Dole|first= Mayra L.}}</ref>

==See also==
*[[Ethnicity and culture]]
*[[Demiboy]]
*[[Nonbinary gender outside of the transgender community]]

==External links==
* [https://web.archive.org/web/20010417041346/http://groups.yahoo.com:80/group/Boi_Fancy Yahoo! Groups: Boi_Fancy (archived from 2001)]
* [http://www.brownboiproject.org/ The Brown Boi Project]
* [http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/features/n_9709/ New York Magazine: Where the bois are]
* [http://web.archive.org/web/20131006094319/http://www.butch-femme.com/showthread.php?1776-what-is-a-boi-and-how-do-you-define-a-boi&amp;s=d22e05e066f4bbeb14621cd949848698 Butch-Femme.com: "What is a boi and how do you define a boi?" (archived forum thread from 2003)]
* [https://web.archive.org/web/20140116213509/http://lezgetreal.com/2011/09/dont-call-me-butch-what-kind-of-lez-are-you/ Lez Get Real: "Don't call me butch: What kind of lez are you?" (article from 2011)]
* [https://web.archive.org/web/20170814063812/http://www.butchvoices.com/faqs/ Butch voices: FAQs]
* [https://web.archive.org/web/20181015113248/http://boisociety.com:80/ Boi Society.com] (archived)
* [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boi_(slang) Boi (slang)] at Wikipedia

==References==
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