Pronouns: Difference between revisions

There have been a few surveys on gender-neutral pronouns and pronoun preferences.

==How to change your pronouns==

If you are nonbinary and want to change your pronouns, this is a purely social part of your transition, rather than one using paperwork. First, you need to put a lot of thought into choosing pronouns that feel satisfactory to you. Research and experiment to find out what feels right. Next, you need to tell other people. As a part of social transition, you need cooperation from other people in order to be called by the pronouns you want, so it's important to keep your composure as well as stay firm. You can help remind people of your pronouns by wearing them on a badge or writing them in your Twitter profile.

First, form your opinions on what you want from your new pronouns. Next, list your favorite pronouns, and compare them to your opinions so that you can list their pros and cons. Meanwhile, test your favorite pronouns out loud and in writing, to see how they feel to you in action.

You can use several criteria to help rank and decide between different pronouns. See [[Pronouns criteria]] for a whole list.

Next, after you decide what criteria you want for your pronouns, browse the alphabetical list of all pronouns below. Write down a list of the ones you like. Put them in a table, with columns for what you see as the good and bad traits of those pronouns. After you finish assessing them all, write down your concluding opinion about each in the last column. Here is a small example of such a table.

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You can use the above table as your template. Create your own table in a word processor, or draw it by hand in your journal. Although the above table only compares two sets of pronouns, you can add rows for as many pronouns that interest you. You don't need to form your conclusions on all pronouns in one sitting. Perhaps over the course of a few days, take your time to form your opinions on each pronoun set, and return periodically to add more notes to your pronoun table.

At the same time as you work on the above table of pros and cons, test the pronouns that you might like. Try them in several ways: in writing, out loud, and in reference to you. If you have friends who understand, test out having them call you by these pronouns for a little while. You can help your friends with this by wearing a pronoun badge (see below). You can also test how your pronouns look in writing by using web-sites that put them into a text. Such sites include [http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/ Failedslacker's Pronoun Dressing Room], [https://pronoun.is/ Pronoun Island] and [http://www.practicewithpronouns.com/ PracticeWithPronouns.com]. You may find that you feel differently about the pronouns when they are in action, and when they are in reference to you.

When you have settled on your favorite set of pronouns, you need to tell people, so they can start using them for you. Announce it to them by a handwritten letter, e-mail, or blog post. Keep your message polite, and say "please" and "thank you." In order to be complete, and to address the first questions the reader might ask, your announcement should include these parts:

Based on the above, here is a [[template letters|sample letter]] of a fictional person announcing their pronoun change. You can use it as a template for writing your own.<blockquote>Dear Stuart,</blockquote>

You can also use the above sample letter as a template for writing an e-mail, just by leaving out the signature. Use it as a template for a blog post by leaving out the salutation.

To help other people remember which pronouns you want to be called by, you can wear a badge, jewelry, accessory, or piece of clothing with your pronouns written on it. Learn more at [[Pronoun badges]]

'''de, dem, deres'''<ref name="rabbitglitter ML pronouns"></ref>

==Dutch neutral pronouns==

'''hän, hänen'''. Formal.<ref name="rabbitglitter ML pronouns"></ref>

==French neutral pronouns==

People have proposed and are using these neutral pronouns in the German language (Deutsch):

'''er*'''.<ref name="rabbitglitter ML pronouns" /> he*.

'''Alternating between he and she.'''

'''A.'''<ref>Die Sache mit den Pronomen. ''Hirngefickt.'' January 3, 2016.https://hirngefickt.wordpress.com/2016/01/03/die-sache-mit-den-pronomen-2/</ref> First mention by a person who's name starts with A.

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Some neutral pronouns in West Frisian language (Frysk) include:

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