Sinclair Sexsmith: Difference between revisions

'''Sinclair Sexsmith''' is a writer and performer. They identify as a "White [[non-binary]] [[butch]] [[feminism|feminist]] dominant".<ref name="medium">{{Cite web |title=Sinclair Sexsmith profile |author= |work=Medium |date= |access-date=9 April 2020 |url= https://medium.com/@mrsexsmith}}</ref> Their website, Sugarbutch, which they started in 2006, "contains explicit writings on kink practices, dominant/submissive relationships, and queer kink erotica (among other things)." ​Their short story collection, ''Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica'', was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. Sexsmith uses [[singular they]] and the prefix [[Mx]].

"I am ever aware of the heteronormativity and [[cissexism]] in the BDSM worlds, and I think [[queer]]s are doing amazing things to call attention to, work on, and transform what it means to explore gender, or explore power dynamics."<ref name="auto_Sinc">{{Cite web |title=Sinclair Sexsmith on "Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica": The Autostraddle Interview |last=Yates |first=Carolyn |work=Autostraddle |date=8 April 2012 |access-date=9 April 2020 |url= https://www.autostraddle.com/sinclair-sexsmith-the-autostraddle-interview-135956/}}</ref>

"Dear [[Cisgender|cis]] people who put your [[pronouns]] on your “hello my name is” name tags: '''Thank you.''' When you do that, I feel more comfortable putting my pronouns — they/them. I feel more comfortable being visibly out as nonbinary. I feel more comfortable asking people to use the pronouns that feel most like me, that make me feel most seen and whole, instead of just resolving to be mis-gendered and mis-represented and whatever who cares anyway."<ref name="medi_Dear">{{Cite web |title=Dear (Cis) People Who Put Your Pronouns On Your “Hello My Name Is” Name Tags |last=Sexsmith |first=Sinclair |work=Medium |date=20 April 2019 |access-date=9 April 2020 |url= https://medium.com/@mrsexsmith/dear-cis-people-who-put-your-pronouns-on-your-hello-my-name-is-nametags-78c047ed7af1}}</ref>

"It's been a long, slow road to this version of me. It's taken a long time and a LOT of experiments, a lot of wardrobe changes, a lot of trial and error. And I'm still changing all the time, still seeking ways to become the most 'me' I can be. I had really excellent teachers who inspired me while I was [[coming out]] and coming into butchness and queerness, which really helped. I have very supportive parents and siblings, and I've always been very stubborn about doing my own thing and expressing my own way, since I was young. I've leaned on the many communities I've been a part of, and have felt so supported and lifted up by the generosity — I've learned so much by being part of communities and groups."<ref name="butc_AnIn">{{Cite web |title=An Interview with Sinclair Sexsmith: A Very Sexy Butch Wordsmith |author= |work=ButchOnTap |date=22 September 2014 |access-date=9 April 2020 |url= https://butchontap.com/an-interview-with-sinclair-sexsmith-a-very-sexy-butch-wordsmith/}}</ref>