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=== Use proper language and pronouns ===

This only applies to people who would like people to use gender-inclusive language, but otherwise, it is still more polite not to use language that would suggest a false gender.

For parents and friends of [[nonbinary]] people, it can be difficult to think of your friend or child as who they are, but you should try to think about them that way. When talking to oneself about another person, it is better for ~~them~~ not to misgender them silently, since they will probably be more likely to speak incorrectly. A person who thinks of another as the wrong gender but tries not to misgender them is being dishonest and sneaky. If you think about your friend and child correctly and without delusion, it will prevent accidental or intentional [[misgendering]], which will lessen their suffering. Imagine a world where everyone calls you by the wrong pronoun and labels you as the wrong gender, then everyone else who hears people talk about you assumes you are the gender associated with that pronoun and treats you that way. It would certainly be stressful.

For parents and friends of [[nonbinary]] people, it can be difficult to think of your friend or child as who they are, but you should try to think about them that way. When talking to oneself about another person, it is better for the person not to misgender them silently, since they will probably be more likely to speak incorrectly. A person who thinks of another as the wrong gender but tries not to misgender them is being dishonest and sneaky. If you think about your friend and child correctly and without delusion, it will prevent accidental or intentional [[misgendering]], which will lessen their suffering. Imagine a world where everyone calls you by the wrong pronoun and labels you as the wrong gender, then everyone else who hears people talk about you assumes you are the gender associated with that pronoun and treats you that way. It would certainly be stressful.

Second, do not dare to use gender-specific language inappropriate to your friend/child's true identity behind their back. The first reason for this is the fact that it is simply impolite to talk about a person behind their back, and second, no one wants to give a bad impression of their friends. It is offensive to use gender-specific language which does not apply to a person, so do not do it.

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 === Use proper language and pronouns ===
 <p><small>This only applies to people who would like people to use gender-inclusive language, but otherwise, it is still more polite not to use language that would suggest a false gender.</small></p>
-<p>For parents and friends of [[nonbinary]] people, it can be difficult to think of your friend or child as who they are, but you should try to think about them that way. When talking to oneself about another person, it is better for them not to misgender them silently, since they will probably be more likely to speak incorrectly. A person who thinks of another as the wrong gender but tries not to misgender them is being dishonest and sneaky. If you think about your friend and child correctly and without delusion, it will prevent accidental or intentional [[misgendering]], which will lessen their suffering. Imagine a world where everyone calls you by the wrong pronoun and labels you as the wrong gender, then everyone else who hears people talk about you assumes you are the gender associated with that pronoun and treats you that way. It would certainly be stressful.</p>
+<p>For parents and friends of [[nonbinary]] people, it can be difficult to think of your friend or child as who they are, but you should try to think about them that way. When talking to oneself about another person, it is better for the person not to misgender them silently, since they will probably be more likely to speak incorrectly. A person who thinks of another as the wrong gender but tries not to misgender them is being dishonest and sneaky. If you think about your friend and child correctly and without delusion, it will prevent accidental or intentional [[misgendering]], which will lessen their suffering. Imagine a world where everyone calls you by the wrong pronoun and labels you as the wrong gender, then everyone else who hears people talk about you assumes you are the gender associated with that pronoun and treats you that way. It would certainly be stressful.</p>
 <p>Second, do not dare to use gender-specific language inappropriate to your friend/child's true identity behind their back. The first reason for this is the fact that it is simply impolite to talk about a person behind their back, and second, no one wants to give a bad impression of their friends. It is offensive to use gender-specific language which does not apply to a  person, so do not do it.</p>