Greygender

This page is about a gender identity that is not widely used among gender-variant people. This does not mean that the identity is not valid, but that very few people are known to use this term. More information on uncommon identities...

Greygender / Graygender

Meaning Gray: The two shades of grey, one lighter and one darker, represent the spectrum of experience this identity covers, since people identifying as graygender might feel gender to a lesser or greater degree than one another. Deep blue: Represents graygender as an identity and experience, like deep ocean water - it's calm but it still has a subtle fluidity and variation, and because it's darker deep below the surface it’s harder to determine what's going on in it, but it's still beautiful and full of interesting and mysterious things. White: represents the purity and validity of graygender people and experiences . Even if we feel gender less often or strongly than most, or don’t present it as much, etc., doesn’t make our gender lesser or invalid.
Related identities	agender, Gender Apathetic
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Graygender/greygender (sometimes called gray agender) is defined as:

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a person who identifies as (at least partially) outside the gender binary and has a strong natural ambivalence about their gender identity or gender expression. They feel they have a gender(s), as well as a natural inclination or desire to express it, but it's weak and/or somewhat indeterminate/indefinable, or they don’t feel it most of the time, or they’re just not that invested in it. They're not entirely without a gender or gender expression, but they're not entirely "with" it either.

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History

The term was coined by invernom in March 2014.

YouTuber Ash Hardell featured their wife Grace, a graygender person, talking about their gender experience in the December 2016 video "What is Greygender?"

On 24 May 2019, the news site "The LGBT Sentinel" included graygender in their article "The Gender Identification Flags You Should Know About For Pride Season!" and described it thusly:

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Graygender individuals are gender ambivalent. This means that a person's gender identity and expression is only partially important to them. Graygender individuals feel a weak desire or inclination to express their gender- they are fine not deeply expressing it! Oftentimes graygender people feel that their gender is indeterminate. Those who identify as Graygender don't feel gender most of the time and are not that invested in it. You can view Graygender as a longterm vacation away from gender!

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In December 2019, Healthline.com included graygender in the article "64 Terms That Describe Gender Identity and Expression".

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A gender term that describes someone who experiences ambivalence about gender identity or expression, and doesn’t fully identify with a binary gender that’s exclusively male or female.

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