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Quoigender (from French quoi, quoi "what" + "gender") is a nonbinary gender identity with several definitions:

  • someone who feels that gender identity and/or existing gender terms don't apply to them
  • someone whose relationship with gender is complicated; someone who isn't sure whether they experience gender or what gender identity means for them
  • can be used as an alternative to "questioning", in order to communicate exhaustion or frustration with searching for a better gender identity term for oneself
  • someone who is done with gender and doesn't care much for it as a concept; frustration with gender
Related identities Graygender and Exgender
Under the umbrella term Nonbinary
Frequency 0.1%


The Tumblr user epochryphal coined the word quoigender in 2014, as a gender counterpart to quoiromantic and quoisexual.[1]

Similar identitiesEdit

  • Greygender, also called grey agender - someone who has a gender, but feels less invested in it or connected to it than other people seem to.[2][3][4][5]
  • Exgender - similar to agender but more extreme--rejection of gender as a concept and a refusal to answer or acknowledge the question of gender.[6][7][8]


There is no universally-accepted flag for the quoigender identity, but several have been proposed: one by Epochryphal, one by an unknown creator, a variation based on the former, and one by Hghrules.

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External LinksEdit


  1. Epochryphal. Tumblr, 2014. https://epochryphal.tumblr.com/post/91335142632/wait-shit-the-obvious-word-coinage-quoigender Archived on 17 July 2023
  2. Pride-Flags (23 August 2015). "Graygender / Gray Agender". DeviantArt. Archived from the original on 17 July 2023. Retrieved 20 May 2020.
  3. Gray/greygender by mogai-library, 12 August 2015 Archived on 17 July 2023
  4. Identifying As “Graygender”/“Greygender”, invernom, 20 March 2014 Archived on 17 July 2023
  5. Hardell, Ash (17 December 2016). "What is Greygender?". YouTube. Archived from the original on 17 July 2023. Retrieved 19 May 2020. CS1 maint: discouraged parameter (link)
  6. Lamb777. Tumblr, 2014. https://mentemmortaliatangunt.tumblr.com/post/90380722342/baaphomett-ive-done-a-lot-of-thinking-about Archived on 17 July 2023
  7. Lamb777. Tumblr, 2014. https://lamb777.tumblr.com/post/89738557605/genders-post-cw-for-death-mentions Archived on 17 July 2023
  8. Pride-color-schemes. Tumblr, 2016. https://pride-color-schemes.tumblr.com/post/148175331029/exgender-egender Archived on 17 July 2023