Gender neutral language in German

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See also: Pronouns#German neutral pronouns

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Gender neutral language in German is more difficult than gender neutral language (also called gender inclusive language) in some languages, because German's grammatical gender is pervasive. See the main article on gender neutral language for general reasons to use neutral language, common problems in using it, and its use for nonbinary people.

Nouns, Adjectives etc.

See also: Geschlechtsneutrale Sprache at Nichtbinär-Wiki

Asterisk, Underscore, Punctuation

Pronounced as a pause or glottal stop. In between "feminine" and "masculine" ending, the most common version:

• mein_e beste*r Freund:in

Either after the stem - or more realistically at the next best place that has nothing to do with feminine/masculine forms but makes sense for pronunciation:

• mei:ne bes_ter Freun*din

At random places:

• mei*ne best:er Freundi_n

Can be used consistently or mixed up like in the example above.

X

Pronounced like iks.

• meinx bestx Freundx

(or e.g. Befreunx to avoid basing it on the masculine form) Or write it as -iks.

• meiniks bestiks Freundiks

-ir, -on and -chen Forms.

• Chirurgon
• Doktoron
• Freundir
• Partchen
• Partnir
• Witwon

Shortened Words and Nonsense Forms

Fairly well known -i words:

• der_die Studi, dix Touri

New words by the same pattern:

• dier Mitbewohni, der*die Kollegi

Use the short -i forms or make up new endings and treat the word as neutrum.

• mein bestes Freundi
• mein liebes Mitbewohnsi

Use -mensch, -menschi, -person:

• das Postmenschi
• meine Liebhabperson
• der liebe Katzenbetreu-Mensch

Or just random words that you think are cute.

• Ich will Fotografierflausch werden.

Pronouns

See main article at German neutral pronouns.

dey

Suggested by Riley Alexis in August 2016, the "dey"-pronoun seems to be the most widespread nowadays. German translation of Starfield vom Bethesda Games Studios uses 'dey'/'demm' pronouns to refer to nonbinary protagonists. Some German speaking influencers use them as their pronouns (cf. @kai.isaiah_jamal) and so do other numerous Instagram users (i. e. search for the key words 'dey/dem' in the Instagram search engine). As for series, Star Treck Discovery uses 'dey' pronouns for their nonbinary/genderless characters.

sier

Ravna Marin Siever, author of the book Was wird es denn? Ein Kind! Wie geschlechtsoffene Erziehung gelingt, uses pronouns from the sier-paradigm for people to refer to them. Several books use 'sier' pronouns.

xier

In the second episode (1:02) of the series City of Ghosts, i. e. Stadt der Geister in German, Thomas states that their pronoun is 'xier'. The blogger Frau Papa Nina tells in an interview from the podcast Das gewünschteste Wunschkind — hosted by Danielle Graf and Katja Seide — that they use the pronoun 'xier' for themselves. Several books, series and video games use 'xier' pronouns. For an exhaustive list, see Xier Pronomen in Texten, Serien, Filmen und Video Games from Illi Anna Heger.

hen

In the German version from Kivi & Monsterhund from Jesper Lundqvist and Bettina Johansson, the protagonist Kivi, who is referred to with the Swedish gender neutral pronoun 'hen', is referred to with the same pronoun in the German translation from Jochen Barthel. 'hen' also seems to be used by some bloggers, instagrammers, and to be currently perceived as popular.

en

An important number of the members of the Verein für Geschlechtsneutrales Deutsch, that is currently growing, uses the en/em forms from the De-e-System as their pronouns.

Tables

The relative pronouns are all similar to the demonstrative pronouns but for the genitive, represented in the last ligne of the table.

Except for the De-e-System (definite article: 'de' [də]; relative and demonstrative pronoun: 'de' [de(:)]), the definite article is similar to the demonstrative personal pronoun.

Personal pronouns: dominant usage

Paradigm	'dey/dej'	'sier' Version 2.1		'xier' Version 3.3		'hän'	NoNa-System		g-Genus		De-e-System
solely referential and/or demonstrative	syncretic pronoun	solely ref.	demonstr.	solely ref.	demonstr.	-	solely ref.	demonstr.	solely ref.	demonstr.	solely ref.	demonstr.
Nominative	dey/dej	sier [zi:ɐ̯]	dier [di:ɐ̯]	xier	dier	hän	hen	dai	hen	dio	en	de [də]/[de(:)]
Accusative	dey/dej; dem(m) [dɛm]	sien	dien	xien	dien	sin	hen	dai	hen	dio	en	de [də]/[de(:)]
Dative	denen; demm	siem	diem	xiem	diem	sim	hem	dam	hem	dero	em	derm
Genitive	derer/deren	sieser	-	xieser	-	sirer	henser	dais	henser	dero	enser	-
Genitive: relative pronouns	derer/deren		deren		deren	-		-		dereno		dersen
						'hen' paradigms
Examples	Dey wohnt in deren eigener Wohnung. Hast du demm neulich gesehen? Wie geht es denen?	Ich kenne sien nicht. Ist sier hier eingezogen?Ich habe noch nie mit siem gesprochen.	Mit diem will ich nichts zu tun haben. Dier hört mir nie zu!	Suchst du xien?Xier ist im Urlaub.	Xier, dien ich um xiesen Fleiß beneide, ist mit diem Yuri befreundet.	Ich rufe sin später zurück an, wenn ich mit sim auch entspannt reden kann.	Hen lächelt wie du. Bist du mit hem verwandt?	Dai Tankel, dai neu hier ist, fragt dai Ompa, dam ich mal ein Bild geschenkt habe, wie es hem geht.	Hen wohnt mit hem in einem Reihenhaus.	Dio Hansi, dereno Geschwister ich noch nie getroffen habe, findet dio Kayan beim Versteckenspielen nie.	Em schmeckt mein Essen nie. Ich will en nicht mehr einladen.	De Studente, mit derm ich gestern gesprochen habe, gefällt mir.

Personal pronouns: peripheral usage

Paradigm	SYLVAIN-Konventionen		'sir' [zi:ɐ̯]		'hen'2	'el'	'ey'
solely referential and/or demonstrative	solely ref.	demonstr.	solely ref.	demonstr.	-	-	-
Nominative	nin	din	sir	dier	hen	el	ey
Accusative	nin	din	sihn	dien	han	en	emm
Dative	nim	dim	ihrm	derm	ham	em	emm
Genitive	nimser	-	sihrer	-	-	emser	eyser

(almost) Indeclinable personal pronouns

Paradigm	'ens'	'en'	'iks'
Nominative	ens	en	iks
Accusative	ens	en	iks
Dative	ens	en	iks
Genitive	enser	enser	ikser

For an exhaustive list of all existent neopronouns, see https://nibi.space/pronomen#pronomen or https://de.pronouns.page/pronomen

Possessive adjectives

For the sake of clarity, the neuter grammatical gender is omitted from this table.

Inclusive possessive adjective (ownership of any gender)

Paradigm	'dey/dej'			'sier' Version 2.1			'xier' Version 3.3			'hän'			NoNa-System			g-Genus			De-e-System
Gender of the owned object	masc.	fem.	incl.	masc.	fem.	incl.	masc.	fem.	incl.	masc.	fem.	incl.	masc.	fem.	incl.	masc.	fem.	incl.	masc.	fem.	incl. 3d PS	incl. 1st and 2d PP
Nominative	deren			sies	siese	siesa	xies	xiese	xiesa	sir	sire	-	hens			hens	hense	henseo	ens	ense	ens	unse	eue
Accusative				siesen	siese	siesan	xiesen	xiese	xiesan	siren	sire	-				hensen	hense	henseo	ensen	ense	ens	unse	eue
Dative				siesem	sieser	siesam	xiesem	xieser	xiesam	sirem	sirer	-				hensem	henser	hensero	ensem	enser	enserm	unsererm	eurerm
Genitive				sieses	sieser	siesas	xieses	xieser	xiesas	sires	sirer	-				henses	henser	hensero	enses	enser	ensers	unserers	eurers
										'hen' paradigms

The possessiv adjectives 'deren' and 'hens' offer the advantage of being easily learnable. As for the possessives suggested by the g-Genus, aside from appearing on nonbinary grammatical websites, they don't seem to have gained much popularity on online platforms. The possessive adjectives from the 'hän' paradigm are phonetically similar to the ones of the system proposed by Kathrin Kunkel-Razum, the editor-in-chief of the Duden.

Article pronouns, possessive pronouns

Unlike possessive adjectives ('ein Eis', 'ihr Bleistift', 'unser Löffel'), possessive pronouns ('eins', 'ihrer', 'unserer') stand for the entire possessed object, so they are not followed by a noun or declined. Article pronouns are can both function as articles and pronouns without undergoing any formal changes (ex.: Diesen (Pulli) mag ich nicht.). For that reason, demonstratives that also function as pragmatically marked personal pronouns (see table 'Personal pronouns: dominant usage'), are also considered article pronouns, as they can refer to an entire syntagma on their own, or accompany/precede a noun (ex.: Den (Julian) mag ich nicht). In the De-e-system, however, the declension of the demonstrative personal pronoun is different from the other article pronouns.

Inclusive possessive and article pronouns (genderneutral/-inclusive owned subject)

Paradigm	'dey/dej'	'sier' Version 2.1	'xier' Version 3.3	'hän'	NoNa-System	g-Genus	De-e-System
	ex. with 'die' (plurall)				ex. with 'jene·r·s'	ex. with 'jede·r·s'	ex. with 'eins·e·er'
Nominative	derer (only attested possessive pronoun for this paradigm)	no data yet	no data yet	no data yet	jenai	jedeo	einey
Accusative					jenai	jedeo	einey
Dative					jenam	jedero	einerm
Genitive					-	-
				'hen' paradigms

Titles

Instead of Frau/Herr

• Frann - nonstandard
• Ind. von "Individuum", nonstandard
• Mau - nonstandard
• Per - nonstandard
• "Vorname, Nachname" - In vielen Fällen kann und sollte man anstelle eines Ehrentitels der Vor- und Nachname verwenden, z.B. "Kim Müller" statt "Frau/Herr Müller".

Professional & Academic Titles

• Doctorx - nonstandard
• Professorx - nonstandard
• Professx, abgekürzt Prof. oder Profx. - nonstandard

Family and relationship terms

See also: Nichtbinäre Wörter at Nichtbinär-Wiki

Parent

• Elter - German word for parent, will sound awkward but be recognised
• Elta - nonstandard
• Mapa - nonstandard
• Pama - nonstandard
• Wawa - nonstandard

Child

• Kind - standard
• Kleines - standard
• Großes - standard
• Enbie, Enby - instead of Mädchen/Junge/Bub, nonstandard

Aunt/Uncle

• Eltergeschwister - nonstandard
• Eltschwister - nonstandard
• Onte - nonstandard
• Pibling - nonstandard
• Tankel - nonstandard
• Tonke - nonstandard

Niece/Nephew

• Nibling - nonstandard
• Niffe - nonstandard
• Geschwisterkind - nonstandard
• Schwisterkind - nonstandard
• Seitkind - nonstandard

Cousin

• Batter
• Cousibling
• Cousinir
• Couson
• Seitschwister

Grandparent

• Großelter - nonstandard, will sound awkward but be understood
• Ohlta - nonstandard
• Opma - nonstandard
• Owa - nonstandard

Sibling

• Bruderin, Bruder*in - nonstandard
• Brüderin, Brüder*in - nonstandard
• Geschwister - standard, but not commonly used
• Geschwisterchen - standard, but old fashioned and usually used for very young siblings
• Große/Ältere Geschwister - big/older sibling
• Kleine/Jüngere Geschwister - little/younger sibling

Partner

• Brautpartnir - nonstandard
• Brautpartchen - nonstandard
• Eheperson
• Ehepartei
• Eheteil
• Eheherzmensch - married to the heart person
• Eheperson
• Eheherzperson
• Freund - nonstandard
• Freundir - nonstandard
• Freund*in
• Gattir - nonstandard, oldfashion, from Gattin/Gatte
• Gema - nonstandard, oldfashion, from Gemahlin/Gemahl
• Gespons - oldfashion
• Heiratir - nonstandard
• Herzmensch - literally heart person, used as a term of endearment
• Liebschaft
• Paarteil
• Partchen - nonstandard
• Partner*in
• Partnir - nonstandard
• Verlobtir - nonstandard

In-law

• Schwageron - nonstandard, sibling-in-law
• Schwiegerelter - nonstandard, parent-in-law
• Schwiegergeschwister - nonstandard, sibling-in-law
• Schwiegerkind - nonstandard, child-in-law
• Schwiegerperson - in-law person
• Schwiegschwister - nonstandard, sibling-in-law
• Schwägir - nonstandard, sibling-in-law

Other

• Begleitir - nonstandard neutral word for one's company/companion

• Brautentourage - nonstandard neutral word for wedding entourage
• Erwachsene Person - neutral word for adult
• Hauspartnir/Hauspartchen - nonstandard neutral word for housespouse

• Hauselter - nonstandard neutral word for houseparent
• Jugenlicher/Jungere Person - neutral word for youth/young person
• Köni - nonstandard neutral alternative to queen (königin) and king (könig)
• Könilich - nonstandard neutral alternative to royal (königlich)
• Leut - nonstandard singular version of leute
• Leute - standard word for people
• Prin/Kronprin - nonstandard alternatives for princess/prince and crownprincess/crownprince
• Thronfolger - neutral word for crownprincess/crownprince
• Regent/Monarch - standard neutral alternatives to queen and king
• Reich - neutral alternative to kingdom (königreich)
• Trauzeugir - nonstandard neutral alternative to trauzeugin/brautjungfern and trauzeuge(n)
• Verehrte Publikum/Gäste/Leute - neutral alternative to "ladies and gentlemen"

• Verheirateten - neutral alternative to married couple
• Älterer person - neutral alternative to old woman and old man

See also

• Gender neutral language
• Glossary of German gender and sex terminology
• German neutral pronouns

Main resources

1. Nichtbinär-Wiki (2024): Geschlechtsneutrale Sprache. Online at: https://nibi.space/geschlechtsneutrale_sprache.
2. Pronouns.page (2024): Liste bekannter Pronomen. Neopronomen. Online at: https://de.pronouns.page/pronomen.
3. Pronouns.page (2024): Wörterbuch für geschlechtsneutrale Sprache. Online at: https://de.pronouns.page/substantive.
4. Illi Anna Heger (2022): Pronomen wie sier und xier. Online at: https://www.annaheger.de/pronomen/.
5. Verein für geschlechtsneutrales Deutsch e. V. (2024): De-e-System. Online at: https://geschlechtsneutral.net/gesamtsystem/.