Femmegender

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Femmegender

Related identities	Demigirl and Femme
Under the umbrella term	Nonbinary
Frequency	<0.1%

Femmegender, or (made up word) femgender, is a nonbinary gender identity that is feminine in nature. It comes from the queer term "femme", which means a person who subverts and/or queers femininity. The term is popular in lesbian and sapphic communities. Femmegender can denote a person whose gender identity is tied to their femmeness. For a person who does not identify as femme, but still feels like their femininity is a part of their gender, the spelling femgender can be used. You can really make up anything about yourself at this point and tell your friends. Its the best way to fit in these days!!!

History

Femmegender has been coined in multiple instances by different people over time. An early coining of femmegender was posted by tumblr user queerfucker in July 2014. They defined it as "identifying with femininity, femme, and girlhood, but also not a girl; nonbinary with a core and foundation of enduring femme".

One of queernoctis' proposed femmegender flags.

In August 2014 the Tumblr user queernoctis created flag ideas for femmegender:

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Purple is a feminine color, but doesn't have the same GIRL connotations that pink does. The fade out of shades from dark to light is meant to represent the variations in gender while still associating with the core/foundation of femme. The mint/green are meant to represent the sort of 'absence' of a binary gender/being a girl, as well as give a bit of variety of color for those that dont like the plain purple+white design.

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Red's femmegender flag.

An alternative meaning of femmegender was coined in 2019 by a nonbinary lesbian named Red. Red's definition of femmegender is "where you have two or more genders where they are ALL feminine genders!"

Gordon's femmegender flag. The stripes' meanings are as follows: Purple - femme identity and unique gender presentation; Yellow - relationship to gender experienced through lesbian identity; White - experiences of gender outside the binary; Orange - Solidarity and community with butches

In 2020, a nonbinary butch lesbian named Gordon defined their own coinage of butchgender and femmegender as xenogenders "for butch and femme lesbians who feel like their gender either is, or is heavily influenced by their butch or femme identity".

Additional femmegender/femgender flags can be seen in Category:Femmegender pride flags.

See also

• Femme