Suzannah Weiss (born September 6, 1990) is a feminist writer who has written for The New York Times, New York Magazine, The Washington Post, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Elle, Playboy, and other publications.[3][4][5][6][7][8]
In college, they began to identify as pangender, but later settled on nonbinary as the most fitting word[2] and, as of 2018, identifies as a nonbinary woman.[9]
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If we lived in a world where gender roles didn't exist, it's possible that I wouldn't identify as non-binary. But as it stands, identifying as a woman leads other people to make assumptions about you: That you love kids, that you prefer to be submissive in relationships, etc. These qualities are not inherent to any gender, but our culture automatically associates them with certain genders, which in turn affects how people treat us. Yes, womanhood is a social construct — even "non-binary" is a social construct. Social constructs are still part of reality, though, and that reality will inevitably affect how we identify.[2]
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I used to feel like a fraud for saying I was non-binary because I didn't do anything differently from when I identified as a woman. I dressed the same, I acted the same, and I didn't talk about being non-binary with many people. Being non-binary doesn't have to be a huge deal, though. You don’t have to do anything special or come out to anyone or behave any differently than you did before. The thing about gender is that it’s totally personal to you, so no matter what you say your gender is, you are right. You can’t be wrong.[9]
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