Family

From Nonbinary Wiki
Jump to navigation Jump to search
A rhombus is a botanical symbol for a plant of unknown sex, as well as a standard family tree symbol for a person of unknown gender.

This page is for collecting resources on the topic of family that have to do with nonbinary identity.

Family and relationship words[edit | edit source]

Some nonbinary people don't feel right about being called words that give an idea of being female or male. Many words for family titles and relationships do: mother, brother, husband, girlfriend, and so on. Nonbinary people who prefer to be called by gender-neutral words can ask to be instead called parent, sibling, spouse, datemate, and so on. See the page Gender neutral language in English#Family and relationship words for a long list. This includes some new words that are not just gender-neutral, but specifically for nonbinary people only.

Being a nonbinary parent[edit | edit source]

Nonbinary Parents Day is celebrated on April 18; this date was chosen by nonbinary parent and educator Johnny Blazes.[1][2]

In the US state of North Carolina, December 6 is formally recognized as Gender Expansive Parents' Day since 2020.[3]

Nonbinary parents might also celebrate Trans Parents Day (the first Sunday of November) if they identify with the trans label. See the Holidays page for a list of other observances related to trans, nonbinary, and gender nonconforming people.

In 2021, a nonbinary transmasculine person named Krys Malcolm Belc published a book titled The Natural Mother of the Child: A Memoir of Nonbinary Parenthood.

Family trees[edit | edit source]

A diagram of a person's family is called a genogram or pedigree. These diagrams use a symbols for different kinds of people and relationships. This includes some standard symbols for a person's sex or gender. A square represents a man or boy, and a circle represents a woman or girl. The standard genogram symbol for a person whose gender is unknown is a rhombus/diamond or triangle. Some nonbinary people, if they are put into a family tree diagram, may prefer to have themselves represented by a genderless symbol.

In the Journal of Genetic Counseling in 2020, a group of scientists proposed a downward-pointing equilateral triangle to be the pedigree symbol for a nonbinary or gender questioning person, with additional markings to indicate assigned sex.[4] However, other scientists have recommended using the rhombus/diamond, because of "the historical use of inverted triangles to designate certain prisoner groups in Nazi concentration camps".[5]

Marriage[edit | edit source]

Nonbinary people who have a legal gender of "X" (or something else besides M or F) may face barriers to marriage, especially in places that define marriage as "between a man and a woman", as happened in Australia for intersex nonbinary person Tony Briffa. Additionally, some jurisdictions offer M and F as the only options on applications for marriage, requiring nonbinary people to misgender themselves even if they have other documents recognizing their nonbinary gender.[6]

See also[edit | edit source]

References[edit | edit source]

  1. "Celebrating Nonbinary Parents Day with Parent & Educator Johnny Blazes". Family Equality. 16 April 2021. Retrieved 3 May 2021.
  2. debi (18 April 2021). "Happy Nonbinary Parents Day!". Trans Families. Retrieved 3 May 2021.
  3. Vaughan, Dawn Baumgartner (4 December 2020). "A day to celebrate all parents, including LGBTQ parents, in NC". The News & Observer. Retrieved 4 January 2021.
  4. Tuite, Allysa; Dalla Piazza, Michelle; Brandi, Kristyn; Pletcher, Beth A. (27 February 2020). "Beyond circles and squares: A commentary on updating pedigree nomenclature to better represent patient diversity". Journal of Genetic Counseling. 29 (3): 435–439. doi:10.1002/jgc4.1234. eISSN 1573-3599. ISSN 1059-7700. PMID 32103563.
  5. Bennett, Robin L.; French, Kathryn Steinhaus; Resta, Robert G.; Austin, Jehannine (15 September 2022). "Practice resource‐focused revision: Standardized pedigree nomenclature update centered on sex and gender inclusivity: A practice resource of the National Society of Genetic Counselors". Journal of Genetic Counseling. doi:10.1002/jgc4.1621. eISSN 1573-3599. ISSN 1059-7700. PMID 36106433 Check |pmid= value (help). (Free-access article)
  6. Sosin, Kate (4 August 2019). "Can You Actually Get Married With a Non-Binary ID?". NewNowNext. Retrieved 12 November 2020.