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+{{Personal story
+| quote = I came out first to myself, which was after a period of denial and confusion, followed by the joy of self discovery.
+| name = Jay
+| age = 19
+| identity = Nonbinary
+}}
+'''Coming out''' is a phrase common in the [[LGBT]] community that means "to recognize one's [[sexual orientation]], [[gender identity]], or sex identity, and to [become] open about it with oneself and with others."<ref>"LGBT resources: Definition of terms." [http://geneq.berkeley.edu/lgbt_resources_definiton_of_terms]</ref> People with [[nonbinary]] gender identities have to come out if they are to be [[recognition|recognized]] as nonbinary. This is because in cultures that recognize only the [[gender binary]], nonbinary people have only the options of being closeted (not "out" or open about one's gender identity) or stealth (living as one's chosen gender without others knowing that one is trans). There are some particular needs that are unique to the situation of coming out as nonbinary, as opposed to coming out as anything else. For example, the average person has an idea of what [[lesbian|lesbians]] are, and knows that they exist in real life. Whatever other obstacles a lesbian woman might face when she comes out, she likely doesn't have to contend with those particular issues. However, the average person doesn't know what nonbinary people are, and doesn't know that they exist in real life. Anyone who comes out as nonbinary needs to be prepared to explain what nonbinary gender is, and prepared for the possibility that others might not accept it as a real gender identity.
+==Template letters==
 {{Personal story
 | quote = I'm always careful at first when raising the topic with new people, if I mention trans* people and they respond badly I stay quiet about my own gender. Safety comes before comfort.
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 | identity = Agender
 }}
-'''Coming out''' is a phrase common in the [[LGBT]] community that means "to recognize one's [[sexual orientation]], [[gender identity]], or sex identity, and to [become] open about it with oneself and with others."<ref>"LGBT resources: Definition of terms." [http://geneq.berkeley.edu/lgbt_resources_definiton_of_terms]</ref> People with [[nonbinary]] gender identities have to come out if they are to be [[recognition|recognized]] as nonbinary. This is because in cultures that recognize only the [[gender binary]], nonbinary people have only the options of being closeted (not "out" or open about one's gender identity) or stealth (living as one's chosen gender without others knowing that one is trans). There are some particular needs that are unique to the situation of coming out as nonbinary, as opposed to coming out as anything else. For example, the average person has an idea of what [[lesbian|lesbians]] are, and knows that they exist in real life. Whatever other obstacles a lesbian woman might face when she comes out, she likely doesn't have to contend with those particular issues. However, the average person doesn't know what nonbinary people are, and doesn't know that they exist in real life. Anyone who comes out as nonbinary needs to be prepared to explain what nonbinary gender is, and prepared for the possibility that others might not accept it as a real gender identity.
-==Template letters==
 When coming out as nonbinary to someone in writing, it can help to use template letters to figure out what to say, and how to say it well. See the page [[Template letters#Coming out|template letters - coming out]] for a collection of these.