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==How to change your pronouns== | ==How to change your pronouns== | ||
If you | If you are [[nonbinary]] and want to change your pronouns, this is a purely social part of your [[transition]], rather than one using paperwork. First, you should put some thought into choosing pronouns that feel satisfactory to you. Research and experiment to find out what feels right. Next, you need to tell other people. As a part of social transition, you need cooperation from other people in order to be called by the pronouns you want, so it's important to keep your composure as well as stay firm. You can help remind people of your pronouns by wearing them on a badge or writing them in your Twitter profile. | ||
===Choosing your pronouns=== | ===Choosing your pronouns=== | ||
First, form your opinions on what you want from your new pronouns. Next, list your favorite pronouns, and compare them to your opinions so that you can list their pros and cons. Meanwhile, test your favorite pronouns out loud and in writing, to see how they feel to you in action. You might want to | First, form your opinions on what you want from your new pronouns. Next, list your favorite pronouns, and compare them to your opinions so that you can list their pros and cons. Meanwhile, test your favorite pronouns out loud and in writing, to see how they feel to you in action. You might want to think about why exactly you do not like your "original" pronoun. | ||
====Form opinions==== | ====Form opinions==== | ||
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====Compare them==== | ====Compare them==== | ||
Next, after you decide what criteria you want for your pronouns, browse the | Next, after you decide what criteria you want for your pronouns, browse a list of pronouns. You can find such a list for the English language at [[ English neutral pronouns]] on this wiki. Other lists are available [[wiktionary:Appendix:List of protologisms/third person singular gender neutral pronouns|on Wiktionary]], on [https://what-the-heck-gender-am-i.tumblr.com/pronouns what-the-heck-gender-am-i.tumblr.com], or in [http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/ Failedslacker's Pronoun Dressing Room]. Write down a list of the ones you like. Put them in a table, with columns for what you see as the good and bad traits of those pronouns. After you finish assessing them all, write down your concluding opinion about each in the last column. Here is a small example of such a table. | ||
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===Announcing your change of pronouns=== | ===Announcing your change of pronouns=== | ||
When you have settled on your | When you have settled on your chosen set of pronouns, you need to tell people, so they can start using them for you. Announce it to them by a handwritten letter, e-mail, or blog post. Keep your message polite, and say "please" and "thank you." In order to be complete, and to address the first questions the reader might ask, your announcement should include these parts: | ||
*Opening: Assuming that you have already [[come out]] to these people as nonbinary, your announcement message should open with a reminder of that, as part of the explanation for why you want to change your pronouns. | *Opening: Assuming that you have already [[come out]] to these people as nonbinary, your announcement message should open with a reminder of that, as part of the explanation for why you want to change your pronouns. | ||
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===Pronoun badges=== | ===Pronoun badges=== | ||
To help other people remember which pronouns you want to be called by, you can wear a badge, jewelry, accessory, or piece of clothing with your pronouns written on it. Learn more at [[Pronoun badges]] | To help other people remember which pronouns you want to be called by, you can wear a badge, jewelry, accessory, or piece of clothing with your pronouns written on it. Learn more at [[Pronoun badges]]. | ||
==Pronoun etiquette== | ==Pronoun etiquette== | ||